Sexual Health in the Age of Oversharing
We know how difficult it can be to try to explain some of your most private moments (and parts!) to anyone, from the doctor’s office to the bedroom. That’s why I found an article that ran in the New York Times this past week so interesting.
“My Vagina Is Terrific. Your Opinion About It Is Not” is the attention-grabbing headline of an article by Jen Gunter. She is an OB-GYN based in San Francisco and writes the article from the point of view of treating women for 25 years on sexual health. “I have listened to women with completely normal exams weep that they have been told that they do not smell or taste correctly. That they are too wet, or too loose, or too gross.
“These women all shared something: They were told these things by men,” she writes. She also references an earlier article of her own experiences, when a man she was dating told her she’d be more desirable if her hair were straighter, her clothes were different, etc. “The metric for my supposed perfection kept changing…which I now gather was the point,” she writes.
“So when this man began to tell me how my healthy vagina could be better, I dumped him,” she continues. “Telling women how they can be better is a classic way of tapping into body image issues and honestly in my personal opinion it is a form of abuse.”
In this day and age where we are having open discussions about sexual harassment and abuse, Dr. Gunter’s article reminds us that no one has the right to prey on our insecurities. That’s why our Consultants are trained in dealing with these intimate conversations, so you as a consumer can ask honest questions about sexual health without the shame of someone telling you it’s bad or wrong.
You can read the entire article here:And to all of you, we wish you a healthy and Happy Thanksgiving!