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Making Space for Yourself

So have you “Marie Kondo’d” your house yet? If you haven’t watched her show or read her articles, Marie Kondo is helping us declutter our living spaces. The idea behind decluttering is that your “stuff,” or rather the accumulation of your “stuff,” is keeping you from your own happiness. If something does not bring you joy, be it an article of clothing or a knick-knack from a long-ago vacation, you should thank it for its time with you, then put it in the donation pile.

Many people have spent this new year cleaning out closets, old storage bins and the like, hoping the decluttering will free their space and help them organize. But how about decluttering our minds as well? An article in Forbes suggests that our minds need decluttering from time to time, as well. In fact, the article says that “clutter is simply delayed decisions.”

The article suggests that just like our closets, our mind needs to be cleaned out as well and that getting rid of mental baggage is important for all of us to stay focused, motivated and productive.

Among the 10 tips for a decluttered mind are:

  • Set priorities. What means the most to you, including your own personal goals and aspirations? Do you want to move up in the Pure Romance ranks? Do you want to carve out the time for more parties? Decide what your priorities are, then create an action plan to make them happen.
  • Keep a journal. According to research in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, expressive writing improves our working memory and can free our minds for other mental activities, including handling stress better.
  • Breathe. Sounds simple, but pausing to take a deep breath can help clear your mind, lower your heart rate and steady your blood pressure. And it’s easy!

Go ahead and clean out your closets and that kitchen junk drawer. But remember, to clear out your mind, as well. Set your goals, and come up with a way to make them happen. Spring cleaning isn’t just for your house, it’s for your life as well!

Want to learn more? Read the rest of the article here.

Learning to Lead

More women are leading than ever before! Whether it’s on Capitol Hill or in the boardroom, more women than ever are in positions of authority. As a Pure Romance Consultant, of course, you know that, as you’re the CEO of your own small business! I remember the days when I was getting Pure Romance off the ground—as a single mom, supporting my family, juggling home and work, I was eager to learn anything I could to help me be a better leader and business person.

We hope you take advantage of the opportunities we offer, from weekend seminars to the upcoming World Conference in Las Vegas, to learn from our experts and from each other how to run your business. (In fact, today is the last day for registration to the World Conference, so make sure you sign up at now!)

A recent Forbes article lists some suggestions on how women can become better leaders. Dr. Betty Vandenbosch of Purdue University Global offers tips for all of us, including:

  • Actively listen. You’ll be able to work with your team more effectively, she says
  • Set regular meetings. It gives everyone a chance to talk about what’s going on
  • Don’t be afraid to change course. Innovative leaders are not afraid to change course when warranted, she says

Beth Gerstein, the Co-CEO of Brilliant Earth jewelry, has her own suggestions for female leaders, including:

  • Be persistent
  • Lead by example
  • You’re only as good as your team

All great ideas for our own lives, and our businesses. Don’t forget, stay a student and learn more about leadership at our World Conference next month!

Want to learn more? Here’s the link to the Forbes article.

All You Need is Love

Happy Valentine’s Week! At Pure Romance, Valentine’s Day isn’t just celebrated on one day but for the entire month of February! If you didn’t already know, we <3 love, and nothing makes us happier than giving people the (bedroom) accessories and resources to enhance their relationships all month (and year!) long. You can think of Pure Romance and our Consultants as modern-day cupids. 😉

According to, it’s estimated Americans will spend around $30 million this Valentine’s season, working out to about $221 a person. Another survey by shows that wives are getting the most love, with husbands spending about $358 total on them! It also turns out that a lot of women are realizing that it’s perfectly fine to be your own Valentine and treating themselves to the gifts they really want (and deserve!). Another phenomenon in recent years that contributes to the $30 million spent is “Galentine’s Day”—the day before Valentine’s where women get together and celebrate their friendship. And why not? We should celebrate our girlfriends with a gift, or just a long lunch or evening out every once in a while!

No matter who you’re shopping for this year, we have gifts for every type of Valentine and a gift guide to match! You can shop by person, price or product and really treat the people you love most to something special. Still not sure what to gift? Check out my absolute favorite products for Valentine’s Day. And, if you’re in the Cincinnati area, don’t forget to stop by our pop-up shop in Kenwood from now until the 16th!

At the end of the day and gifts aside, this holiday is truly about letting the people you love know how much you value and appreciate them. Let’s take the magic of this day and make a point to celebrate love, not just once a year but every single day. Have a wonderful Valentine’s Week!

Have a Heart to Heart with Your Heart

Have you worn red yet in February? Not just for Valentine’s Day (one of my favorite holidays of the year!) but for women’s heart health? Sometimes we women get so busy, we don’t take care of our own health, or ignore warning signs of problems. February is a good reminder for all women to protect our heart health. has some sobering facts about women and heart disease, but not all of it is bad. For example, women’s awareness that heart disease is their leading cause of death increased from 30% in 1997 to 56% in 2012.

However, only 42% of women aged 35 and older are concerned about heart disease. After their first heart attack, 26% of women age 45 and older die within a year, compared to 19% of men.

Other facts to note from the article: Only 3% of women between 20 to 59 years of age engage in the recommended 30 minutes of moderate exercise per day that is recommended for your heart health. And at age 45, the lifetime risk for cardiovascular disease is more than 1 in 2 women.

So what can you do? Well, the article suggests talking with your doctor about your risk factors, make heart-healthy changes in diet and lifestyle to help your heart, and don’t ignore any symptoms you might have.

We celebrate February as the month of love, but take some time to love yourself and your health as well. Because you can’t take care of everyone else in your life, until you take care of yourself. And wear red to make sure your sisters, mothers, and girlfriends do the same!

Want to read more about women’s heart health? Read the article here.


Online is the New Line

Online dating is as old as the analog version of messaging for a mate—classified ads in the newspaper. Have you ever had a date that you arranged online? You’re not alone. The Statistic Brain Research Institute reports that more than 49.7 million Americans have tried online dating. And you have many sources from which to search: According to Forbes, the United States alone has 2,500 dating sites, and about 1,000 new dating sites are launched every year. It’s also estimated that there are nearly 8,000 dating sites available around the world.

The online dating sites seem to work: The Pew Research Center found that 66% of online daters have gone out with someone they’ve met on line, and 20% of couples who say they are in a committed relationship met on a dating site.

But not everything is what it seems online: According to eHarmony research, men and women are both guilty of lying, but they’re guilty of lying about different things. Men tend to lie about their job and/or how much money they make, while women tend to lie about how old they are.

And, no surprise, there are dangers. A Scientific American study shows 1 in 4 people said they had been messaged by someone on a dating site who made them feel uncomfortable or harassed. According to the Internet Crime Complaint Center, a project of the FBI, online dating scams cost its victims, especially older women, millions of dollars each year.

This is, of course, the season of love, and you or your friends may be trying online dating. But before you start looking for love in all the wrong places, make sure you know what you’re getting into—and who you’re getting to know. And who knows, you could be one of the 20% who have a very special Valentines Day!

Want to read more about online dating? Read the article here.