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Best Birthday Ever

I wanted to take a moment and thank all of you who wished me a Happy Birthday during World Conference this past month; many of you brought me thoughtful gifts such as hand-knit scarves, monogrammed towels, flowers and more! I love having my birthday fall during World Conference because I get to spend it with four thousand of my favorite women, my family, and staff! I really felt I was surrounded with people who genuinely loved and cared about me.

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This year’s event was by far my favorite – I thought that it wouldn’t be possible to outdo the 20th Anniversary last year, but we did it, and it wouldn’t have been possible without all of the Pure Romance Consultants who flew in to our Cincinnati headquarters from all over the world. A big highlight was being able to meet so many of the new faces from the Slumber Parties acquisition and to hear them ask the seasoned Pure Romance Consultants, “Is this for real?” and “Is it always this spectacular?” and be met with a resounding, “Yes!”

We’ve always strived to be a company that listens to its Consultants and puts them first. My goal has always been to live up to this mission and to hear so many women who recently have come on board tell me how thankful they were and how they’d never had an experience like this in their life was truly the best birthday present I could have ever asked for this year.

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For those of you reading this wondering if I actually took down time afterward, I did decide to take a few days to decompress with close family and friends. We bid on an auction item during the Pro-Scan Pink Ribbon Luncheon and won tickets to the Joan Rivers Fashion Police television show taping and Chelsea Lately in Los Angeles. We were so proud to bring gift boxes with our products to the lively hosts because I truly believe they are superior to everything else out there.

It’s so important to take the time to turn your phone off once in a while and connect with those closest to you, embracing the moment. I turned it on here and there for my latest passion – Instagram – so I could take my followers along on the journey. My daughter, Lauren, and my other daughter-in-law, Rachel, couldn’t make the trip so it was a great way for them to tag along through photos.

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We stayed at a gorgeous hotel called the Montage where they brought in fresh flowers every day, and dined at the world-famous restaurant The Ivy. Some other fun birthday treats included Spago Beverly Hills by Wolfgang Puck and Sur where we ran into Lisa Vanderpump and Jax Taylor from “Vanderpump Rules.” Those of you who know me well know that I love to keep my eye on fashion, and it was quite a treat to see a man sitting at breakfast in Beverly Hills sipping on his coffee with red-soled Christian Louboutins (not something you see every day!) I even chatted with a kind stranger who told me he found love in Austria and I should look for romance in New Zealand. Coincidentally, we are already opening New Zealand and have Consultants there ready to help couples find their own romance!

A couple of the women with me on this trip were young moms of children (between the ages of two and 10). I listened to them talk about worries in being away from their kids. This made me think about our own Pure Romance Consultants who left their families to come to World Conference and the advice I give to both is the same. Trips like these are time to give back to yourself. To laugh and giggle. To give yourself some fun. Were there nights on my birthday trip where I maybe had one glass of wine more than I should? Yes! When I indulged in a dessert I’d never eat back home. Yes! Flirted with a handsome man? Yes! When I returned to work I hit the ground running even more re-energized and passionate than before. In many ways, our Consultants who traveled here for World Conference also had a girls’ getaway, giving back to themselves, making new friends and letting go for a few days. Taking a girls’ weekend shouldn’t be left to just a birthday celebration, it’s something I recommend that every woman should do.

Beat-the-Heat Summer Hairstyles

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Guest blog by Sue Beck (collaboration with Stephen Gunn): Sue Beck-Currie is the owner and Creative Director of Salon Beck located in Downtown Cincinnati, as well as a Pure Romance Professionista Stylist. Education is and has been Sue’s driving passion; she has worked to attain the knowledge and expertise in the art of hairdressing, not only for her growth, but most importantly to share with others. She is proud to be a national educator with John Paul Mitchell Systems, and enjoys sharing her skills and being a part of the JPMS education team. Sue has studied extensively at Vidal Sassoon – Santa Monica, with Anthony Mascula, Toni & Guy – London & Dallas, Scott Cole & Linda Yodice – Colorcutting USA, John Louis David – Paris, and the famous Garren of NY. She has provided editorial for Mademoiselle, Good Housekeeping, and several other periodicals under John Casablanca’s “Look of the Year.” Sue has also been responsible for education in technical skills, motivation and goal setting for a multi salon group. Her love of the beauty industry continues to thrive and grow in her daily life.

Note from Patty’s Desk: For today’s blog, I asked Pure Romance Professionista Stylist, Sue Beck-Currie to give you some amazing hair tips to beat the heat – August is the muggiest of months in my hometown so no better time than now to post! Recreate your own summer hairstyle and you could WIN A $150 SPAFINDER GIFT CARD! Email us a picture of your new style to social@pureromance.com and Sue will pick her favorite. You must be a subscriber to my blog to win. If you’re the lucky winner, we want to see photos of how you pampered yourself – whether it was a new hairstyle, a relaxing massage or manicure!

Summer has been mild so far here in Cincinnati, but any stylist can tell you that any summer’s heat and humidity can make it a tough time of year for long lasting beautiful hair. While we all would love to let our tresses loose, with a little know-how , sometimes you are better off pulling your hair up: a potentially head-turning, far more comfortable, and long -lasting option for long hair that can be fun instead of frustrating. Luckily, the trends of 2014 lend themselves well to easy upstyles. Three dimensional hair color like balayaged ombré, subtle highlights, and block color techniques provide definition to your shape and the appearance of shine to any style. Today’s many popular varieties of fringe, whether straight or side-swept, strong or soft, elevate a look by lending a polish and shape around the face.

A beautiful upstyle comes together easily with the right tools, ‘liquid tools’ and hot tools, and a little preparatory work. You ‘tease’ a nerd, but you ‘ruche’ your hair. Paul Mitchell’s Daily Boost or Purology’s Root Lift with or without a dry shampoo like Paul Mitchell’s Dry Wash in combination with light ruching through the crown, will provide volume, control, and texture to the foundation of even a second day look. If you didn’t use a styling product before blowdrying yesterday, to make the length of your look manageable, you’ll need to add to your dry hair a creamy gel or mousse (whether it is soft like Paul Mitchell’s Fast Form or strong and juicy like Purology’s Silk Bodifier); never go for anything too sticky or stiff. One pump of Paul Mitchell’s Styling Treatment Oil or Gloss Drops will add shine while controlling flyaways. Too heavy? Are you more comfortable letting your hairspray tackle flyaways once you’re finished? We like Paul Mitchell’s Hold Me Tight because its dry “layerable” touch as a working spray and finishing spray. All of these styles start with softly curled or round brushed hair- or if you are so lucky, your own natural curls.

For our first look let’s mix something simple like a classic pony with the cutting edge of Fendi’s fall runway. For an extra lift in the style, try placing the pony tail high up at the crown of your head; it’s up to you!

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  1. Section hair into four sections. Secure back section into a low, sleek ponytail. Secure with elastic.
  2. Divide Mohawk section into two sections with a slight diagonal parting from front center to back-center-right.
  3. Take the right side section, keeping it smooth and sleek, back toward the ponytail base. Wrap the ends of section around the elastic and secure underneath with a bobby pin. Repeat with the left side section.
  4. Secure remaining ends by tucking them underneath the ponytail, and securing them under the base with bobby pins.

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Our second look is on trend with braids inspired by our favorite new mom: Princess Kate!

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  1. Leaving a section loose on either side of your face, and gather the rest of your hair back into a ponytail. Pull gently at the top of your ponytail so it’s not too tight.
  2. Braid half of the hair on the left hand side, and wrap it over your ponytail. Repeat with the right hand side.
  3. Braid the lower section of hair on the left hand side and wrap over your ponytail. Pin in place with a bobby pin underneath your ponytail. Repeat on the right hand side. Important: Stretch out your braids! Pull at the sides to make your hair look thicker and fuller.
  4. Loosely braid your ponytail and roll it under to form a bun. Pin in place with bobby pins.

Our last look goes out to our curly girls. You know better than anyone how unpredictable curls can be. So on the days that somehow a pump of Paul Mitchell’s Twirl Around and a diffuser just doesn’t do the trick, turn to this quick style.

It really is as easy as Twist & Pin!

Start by taking a one-inch section of hair near your left temple and twist it around your finger. Twist it around into a mini bun at the back of your head and pin in place with a bobby pin.

Repeat with a section from the right side, and twist and pin in place. It helps to twist with one finger, and then use your other index finger to hold the twist down so you can make the bun.

Remember to take even sections to keep the twists consistent. You can use bobby pins to pin the twists to each other for more stability.

 

Infertility: What You Need to Know

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Guest Blog by Michael A. Thomas, M.D., Professor (Fellowship and Section Director, Division of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility – University of Cincinnati Academic Health Center)

Note from Patty’s desk: I’ve worked with Dr. Michael Thomas on behalf of the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health for almost a decade. He is a renowned fertility specialist and someone I personally look up to and admire. The Patty Brisben Foundation would not be where it is today without the genuine support of experts like Dr. Thomas. Pure Romance Consultants reading this blog should share in my pride that we are truly surrounding ourselves with nothing but the best, and also use this valuable information to challenge your health care professionals with questions and offer additional resources to your customers in the ordering room and beyond.

My name is Dr. Michael Thomas and I am a Professor at the University of Cincinnati Medical Center, as well as a fertility specialist. Though 75% of my day is spent helping couples get pregnant, the rest of my day is spent researching various topics including sexual dysfunction, contraception, menopause, pelvic pain, and the effect of environmental toxins on reproduction.

20-25% of couples have problems getting pregnant.  Usually a doctor will tell a patient to wait for one year to get try to get pregnant if the female partner is less than 35 years old and has normal cycles (less than 35 days apart). Women who are older than 35, have longer cycles or have a known male partner with sperm issues, should see a doctor much sooner.

Experts generally divide infertility problems among patients to:

  • Those that are caused by the male or absence of a male (40%)
  • Those associated with problems with the female partner (40%)
  • Problems related to the male and female (10%)
  • No problems found in the male or female (10%)

Male problems are associated with the sperm. A semen analysis is an easy way to find out if the male partner has a problem with the sperm count, movement or shape. One or all of the problems can prevent fertilization of an egg. Examples which can cause a problem include something that the male has coming in contact with (toxic exposure), varicose veins around the testicles (varicocele), hormonal, genetic, or, sometimes, no reason for a sperm problem may  be found.

Common female problems that may cause infertility include disorders of ovulation (difficulty in releasing an egg), blockage of the fallopian tubes, abnormalities of the uterus (womb), pelvic adhesions, or issues with the cervix (mouth of the womb) or vagina.

One of the most common disorders of ovulation that affects up to 15% of women is polycystic ovary syndrome or PCOS. PCOS is associated with having two of the following three symptoms:

1.  Menses for more than 35 days

2.  An increase in hair growth above the lip or under the chin

3.  Polycystic appearing ovaries on ultrasound

Unlike some mistruths about PCOS that have been perpetuated, women with this condition can be of any weight and problems with PCOS usually present themselves after they start their menses as a teenager. Most of these women have to use medications in order to get pregnant. These hormonal preparations  will allow her body to produce an egg in a more predictable way so that intercourse can be timed to increase the chance that an egg can be fertilized and implant in the uterus.

Another common problem that can cause infertility is blocked tubes.  Previous surgery or a prior pelvic infection can predispose a woman to have both of her tubes blocked. If a blockage occurs, the egg and sperm can’t meet to allow an embryo to form. Specialized testing by your gynecologist or a fertility specialist needs to be performed to check if the tubes are open or closed. This test, called a hysterosalpingogram (or HSG), should be offered to anyone experiencing an infertility problem.

Doctors should also pay special attention to couples that go through infertility workups.  Because the precise timing of intercourse to conceive can sometimes become more “pro-creational than recreational,” the fun of a normal sex life can lose its spark; therefore, the lines of communication must always remain open in couples who face fertility challenges. During this time, a frank and open discussion with each other or with a health professional is very important.

Through a grant totaling $50K from the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health, the University of Cincinnati has investigated the effect that infertility can have on a couple’s sex life. We have also researched the effect of birth control pills on decreasing a woman’s sex drive, how a new diagnosis of cancer can affect libido, and how women with vaginal pain can get relief with either the use of medicines that block certain nerves or physical therapy. These projects, and many others from leading academic institutions from around the country, have been funded by the Foundation.

In addition, I am very proud of the following UC Health video.

For more information on infertility, or to contact me for advice, please visit www.ucfertility.com.

 

 

Making Connections & Making Money

One of the most frequently asked questions Consultants ask me is, “How did you do it; how did you manage to build a successful business, while raising a family of four and juggling so many different things?”

The short answer is this: I never separated my business from my social life and networking. Is it important to “turn work off” and spend some time with family, or just spoil yourself once in a while? Of course. But outside of those occasions, I was always promoting my business, whether I was sitting reading a book with my kids at the community pool, sitting on the bleachers cheering on my children, or catching up with other parents at the school PTA meeting. I loved (and still love) what I do. I didn’t see it as work.

Instead of looking at this type of networking as soliciting or bugging others, I understood that I was offering people around me something that could benefit them and strengthen their relationships. That’s why I booked so many parties. I became their “go-to” person when a woman had a question about her intimate relationship – especially back then when it wasn’t as common to talk as openly about sexuality as today.

When you get involved in your community, you are letting others get to know you.  As friendships grow, parties increase because if there’s one thing that friends love to do, it’s have a great time with one another (and if you can learn something in the process that helps your love life or your sex life, even better).

The thing that often surprises many who know me is that I was not a naturally outgoing person in the beginning. I was like many of the Pure Romance Consultants reading this who feel a little shy when they think about approaching people on the topic of sex, our work, or even a new product. The first step is to be social! Get involved with your children and your community: sports events, dance recitals – you name it – anything that allows you to network and meet other adults and build new relationships. Believe it or not, I even booked parties with the cashier at the grocery store – and why not? Everyone wants a happy, healthy relationship regardless of where they work or do in their spare time.

Something as simple as learning a new acquaintance’s kid’s name, really listening to them and remembering the details – these are small nuances that can go a very long way and create a customer for life.  Give them a reason to ask you, “What do you do for a living?” Or “How’d your party turn out?” Suddenly, when you notice they are full of questions – that’s when you turn around and say, “Suzie, you ask me all the time about my parties; I think deep down you’re interested in doing this.” This kind of connection offers an opportunity to build your team, whereas had you not been paying attention, they probably would never have asked.

Summer is in full swing. We asked Consultants how they promote their business while on vacation, and here’s what they had to say:

“Last time I took a vacation I swore I wasn’t going to work. At the end of a long beach day, I checked my calls and couldn’t help returning the missed calls. I booked three parties, went to a shop for a new swimsuit and networked. The woman at the store put my card on her board of vendors. I then met a couple at a late night bonfire and sold Sensations. My vacation darn near paid for itself!” – Lena Dean (Consultant, Dayton, OH)

“Vacation? What’s that? I’m ‘on’ 24/7, so even while I’m on a vacation I’m still promoting my business! My husband has a habit of doing it too. He tells random people we just met all about my business.” – Beth Lindsey (Director, Marietta, SC)

“I set aside about an hour a day to return calls, emails and other forms of contact when I’m on vacation. I have a booking calendar and a Hostess info sheet to capture info, and I send out Hostess packets when I return home. You can also utilize an automatic response email if you are going to be out, and change your voicemail with a date and time you will be returning phone calls. I just have to make sure I actually do what I say I will and everything works out.” – Jenny Cox (Advanced Consultant, Fayetteville, NC)

 

Sizzling Summer Makeup Looks + Giveaway

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Guest Blog By Ed Blevins, Patty’s personal makeup artist and Saks Fifth Avenue YSL makeup artist

Summer is in full swing! This is the time to make sure your skin is in tip-top shape. Here are a few of my favorite products to help you maintain a healthy glow and always look fresh.

  • Put your winter foundation away and try a lightweight tinted-moisturizer with a SPF. I like Laura Mercier; it comes in quite a few different formulas to go with all skin types.
  • Add a compact pressed powder; it provides more coverage and can be easier to travel with than loose powder.
  • Try Chanel’s LES BEIGES new powders and bronzers. They have an amazing finish.
  • If you’re more on the oily side, Bobbie Brown and Clinique offer blotting papers that absorb oil without removing your makeup.
  • And my favorite part of makeup: color. This year’s spring and summer look has included a throw back to the 80s with the “bronze goddess” reappearing (with a splash of color). Coral is the color to try this year to stay current. It can be blush or lip stick, and don’t forget the eyes can go from clean and natural to a full pop of color.

So on your next visit to your favorite cosmetics counter, ask to try some thing new. Make up is not permanent, just your smile is!

Patty’s Pick: See what Patty’s using this season in the YSL coral palette. Patty’s Tip: Don’t be intimidated by the price tag! You can easily use the colors of this YSL palette to find a similar, more affordable palette.”

A note from Patty’s desk: I wanted to treat my subscribers to a few of Ed’s favorite things. One of my lucky blog followers will win a gift to help enhance her summer look.  Good Luck!

*To enter to win:

-Comment on the blog: For example, what’s your favorite summer makeup essential?

-Must be a blog subscriber.