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A LETTER TO MY MOM

Dear Mom,

This is the first Mother’s Day without you here.  I keep thinking to myself that I wish I could be taking you to a special brunch this morning, but instead we’ll be celebrating your life and legacy.

I thank God every day that I had the opportunity to be with you during your final days.  Throughout your pain, you continued to be a spirit of hope.  You taught me what it was to fight with dignity.  But most importantly, you shared with me some lessons that have changed my life over the last year.

Life has a funny way of teaching us like that—it was during some of your weakest moments that you taught me life’s greatest lessons.  And for that, I am forever thankful!

Thank you for teaching me that love multiplies.

As a mother, you think you can’t possibly love anyone or anything more than your children.  Then, grandchildren come along and prove you all wrong.

Being a grandma is truly one of life’s greatest gifts and the relationship with a grandchild is one that cannot be put into words. As a grandmother, or as my ten grandkids call me, Mimi, you’re able to love fully with less worry. The pressure of creating the rules or keeping a roof over their head is no longer a distraction. You’re able to live in the moment and cherish your time together.  Thank you for reminding me to make the most of each opportunity I get to be with them.

Thank you for teaching me to be courageous.

You shared with me your regret over not confronting some of the more difficult conversations with your children over the years.  You told me that you wish you would have said and done more.  Please know, that I was listening to each and every word and they’ve helped me to be brave enough to do this with my own children.

As our families continue to grow, we tackle new challenges and changes, and that often means talking with one another through those often-difficult experiences. Although it can be uncomfortable, you reminded me that we have to sometimes continue to be a parent and not a “friend” to our children. We sometimes have to show them how much we truly love them by taking a harder stance.  And most importantly, we have to give our children time to go find themselves and to seek the answers on their own.

 Thank you for teaching me the importance of hard work.

You had the most incredible work ethic.  Mom, you taught me the power of ambition, strength and dedication.  You lead by example and I carried those hard-work lessons with me when I started my own business.

My only wish is that you would have rewarded yourself more and taken more time for you‑you deserved it. I share this lesson with my friends who constantly make everyone else a priority. “It’s okay to treat yourself and put yourself first—you earned it.” And today, on Mother’s Day, I think this message is more important than ever.  Every woman out there (mothers, grandmothers, step-mothers, aunts, and any women who gives of herself to mentor others) should do something wonderful for herself today, and I hope someone is doing something thoughtful for you, too.

I wish I had said more of this when you were here. I would love for one more conversation with you so I could tell you all this in person. But I hope you’re celebrating today in Heaven with Grandma Jewel, as you told me she was with you during your final days.

Love you always,

Patty

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2016 World Conference

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If you’re as excited as I am about the upcoming 2016 World Conference in sunny Orlando, Florida, you’re probably already started packing! While getting together your swimsuits and business cards, don’t forget to come truly ready to learn. World Conference is not only a time to celebrate the incredible achievements of our Consultants, but also an important time to network with other sister Consultants, and learn even more tricks of our trade.

This year, I’m thrilled about the First Time Attendee Rally, reserved especially for those who are attending their very first World Conference! We will be welcoming our veteran Consultants shortly after and ringing in the event in high style with “White Party” fashion attire. I’ve been told I know how to throw a great party, and that will definitely be the case as we welcome our Consultants to walk the pink carpet, dance to a headliner DJ, win prizes, sip cocktails, nibble on hors d’oeuvres and more!

I’m especially excited that we have invited Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of the New York Times Bestseller, Eat Pray Love, to speak on Friday, April 1. The book was so popular that it was later adapted for the silver screen for a film by the same title, and both the book and film inspired millions throughout the world. Oprah Winfrey even devoted two episodes of The Oprah Winfrey Show to it.

We will also be offering some unique learning sessions, including everything from Sex in America, led by Dr. Debby Herbenick, renowned author, research scientist, educator, sex advice columnist, blogger, television personality, professor and human sexuality media expert (quite an impressive list!) to Mastering the Art of the Sale, instructed by Pure Romance National Director Lindsay Wagoner and Senior Director Mallory Bohenblust. We will also be offering an optional Guest Golf Outing for Consultants’ plus-ones and well be providing prizes for the golfers who wow us with their best A-game.

World Conference is by far one of my favorite times of the year. When I was a Consultant years ago, I always looked forward to the opportunity to reconnect with others like me, who running their own businesses and balancing family and other responsibilities. It was awesome to pick their brains, ask each other for advice, and just have fun. That was my time to reap the rewards for all of my hard work and celebrate my peers who had worked just as hard. I LOVE seeing that same excitement in our Consultants’ eyes and having the opportunity to still share in this amazing experience.

Track your Orgasms…?

I recently read an article on Forbes.com, and wanted to share it with all of you. The feature talks about activity tracker “wearables” that may soon allow you to track your orgasms. (Now that I have your attention!) An activity tracker is a device that is used for monitoring and tracking fitness-related metrics such as running, walking and sometimes heartbeat or sleep.

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Imagine the amount of measurable data that could be gathered in regards to sexual health and sexuality with something like this. Think of that woman whose own physician has told her time and time again that issues with sexual pleasure are all in her mind. Being able to share information gathered by this device with your doctor is a good first step in opening up the floor about your sexual health. He or she isn’t with you every day tracking your sexual activity or physical response to intimacy and pleasure; this is an interesting way to allow your health care professional in on that world in a more scientific way.

It also could help increase communication among couples. Being able to openly look at the data gathered by this type of wearable could allow for dialogue that otherwise might have been uncomfortable. On another note, it could even encourage couples to be more intimately active – as we all know, practice makes perfect applies to all aspects in life!

The developers claim that you will also be able to track heartbreak (although many of us would like to forget that as soon as possible).

One wearable that’s been getting mixed media attention over the past few months is the Fitbit. Regardless of your view on whether they do or do not accurately track your heart rate, many do find this type of wearable a good way to stay committed to fitness. In my experience, I found that the FitBit helped keep me on track, get into juicing and make 2016 a year about becoming a better, healthier me – not just about losing weight. I’m hoping something like this new wearable could have the same effect on couples and help enhance sexual health and awareness in the process.

 

Valentine’s Day – 365 Days a Year

Valentine’s Day holds a special meaning for our Pure Romance Consultants; it’s nothing short of a National Holiday for us: an annual reminder of how important OUR work is to helping couples keep the spark alive in their relationships. It’s our mission to show how communication, and investment of time and energy into your relationship can make love and passion go the distance. It’s also the time that we remind others that this shouldn’t be a one -time gig. I’ve seen the guys running frantically into the card shop to grab last minute flowers, cards and candy because the holiday crept up on them a little too soon. It’s the little things throughout the year – the heartfelt gestures of love – that matter the most. Today should just be the icing on the cake for a loving relationship that prioritizes thoughtfulness, appreciation and effort all year long.

And let’s get something straight – don’t feel sorry for all of the singles out there. As a single woman myself, I know that Valentine’s Day is also a day of LOVE, and that means showing love to ALL that are important to you in your life: mothers and daughters, siblings, friends, co-workers, even your pets!

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For me, it’s about celebrating self-love and independence. I love getting together with close girlfriends and doing something to pamper ourselves, like catching up over a manicure, or indulging in long-deserved massages.

What do you plan to do this Valentine’s Day? Whether you’re single or attached, make a commitment to love yourself and give thanks for all those you love in your life. It’s truly a blessing.

Pure Romance Takes New York City!

We recently traveled to the Big Apple to attend several media events to help spread the word of the amazing work our Consultants  are doing and highlight our products leading up to Valentine’s Day. This trip was a long-time in the making; it all started last year at the Pink Ribbon Luncheon when I was honored at the event. Good Morning America’s Robin Roberts was the featured speaker and I was so excited about the opportunity to hear her tell her story in person. I start every single one of my mornings with her and can’t think of a woman I admire more. She has inspired so many with her strength and determination in overcoming life-threatening experiences: especially with her battle with breast cancer and subsequent blood cancer and bone marrow transplant. Watching her speak that day, I was moved beyond words. It goes without saying, I bid on the event’s Good Morning America auction package to visit the set of my favorite anchorwoman.

Fast-forward to 2016, where we reunited with Robin on set in New York and received a behind the scenes look at how the show is produced (it was like a well-oiled machine, by the way!). I’ve also never been on any talk show set (besides Live! Kelly and Michael) that was so warm and friendly.

No matter how busy and hectic it was, Robin took her time to make sure she introduced me to everyone she worked with, and she showed incredible thoughtfulness by remembering our earlier conversations about The Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health. This gave me the opportunity to continue this dialogue with many of the others there that day, which was a huge honor. They embraced the message and showed sincere interest in exploring it further in the future. It was awesome to see national media influencers understanding that sexual health is the pink elephant in the room, and to hear them agree that it’s a topic that everyone needs to address. It fueled me even further to continue pressing further in this arena.

Pure Romance Consultants aren’t the only ones who challenge themselves to step outside of their comfort zones advocating on behalf of women’s sexual health and intimacy. We also push ourselves; that continued with a subsequent blogger and journalist event at the Museum of Sex, which led to coverage in a few blogs, such as Urban Milan: Valentine’s Gifts for Her, and prospects for many more.

My PR Director, Suzanne Murray, stepped out of her comfort zone volunteering for an on-air dance competition (and winning) on Live! Kelly and Michael Show later in the week! I love that our team, much like our Consultants, does life different. Because of Suzanne’s boldness, we were able to get Pure Romance gift boxes in the hands of Kelly and Michael!

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We also stopped by to visit our old friends at The View to provide a beautiful audience giveaway including some of Pure Romance’s top pampering products and my favorite perfume, Truly Sexy – Flirt.  We had to go in early that morning for their crew to shoot the product before the show went on air. It was a quick process because the packaging is so beautiful and elegant – we felt proud to watch New York-based producers on a national broadcast show gawking at the boutique-like products. They were excited and impressed with it. Some had heard of it, and those who hadn’t couldn’t wait to check it out. 12669505_957724584303950_8594364928424492062_n

This was the day I was the most afraid – mainly because I knew that this segment was all about our Consultants and it was so important to me to make sure that the little amount of time I had to talk about our Pure Romance mission and products was loud and clear. I wanted to make sure that more than anything that during my interview portion I got the message across that we are a company that focuses on enhancing communication in relationships, first and foremost. I was most proud of the product shot because I believe they speak for themselves, and the world got to see the beautiful packaging and that we have a wide array of products – truly something for everyone.

FullSizeRender-2For those of you who want legitimacy and to show your clients you are working for the top relationship company in the world, take advantage of this national exposure.  Use the clips, pictures, and blog mentions to your advantage; it is a great way to showcase the products, and is yet another reason to reach out to your customers.  Check out how Executive Director Dana Barish pushed this out on her social media network.

 

On Social Media, it might have looked like our trip was just filled with shopping, work and fun (you can have fun while working), but hopefully this blog shows that we were there for you, and that we were a team of people who went in there with a job and got it done!