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Take a Breath, Take Care of Yourself

The author of the statement, “May you live in interesting times,” probably didn’t have the last few weeks in mind when writing it. Be that as it may, this is where we are in our history and “interesting” doesn’t begin to describe the issues we are facing now.

As you have heard, Pure Romance is moving its annual World Conference from its March date to late July. Because we have Consultants scheduled to travel from around the country as well as from around the world, we feel it is in the best interests of everyone to postpone our conference.

This decision was not made in haste: We talked with many health professionals, as well as with our Consultants, before deciding to move back the date. Please know that the health, safety and well being our Consultants, guests and staff are our top priorities.

We want to emphasize that, even though we are moving the World Conference date, that this is not a time to panic, but to be cautious. We want everyone to feel safe about traveling and being in large gatherings, and we feel it is in the best interests of all attendees to move the conference to a time when more guests will feel comfortable about traveling.

As small business owners, our Consultants know how to adapt to change: Parties are moved, orders are revised, schedules are altered. You are skilled on turning on a dime! That’s why I know you will understand our reasons and will adjust to the World Conference move.

As for the threat of illness, this is a time for all of us to stay vigilant, but stay positive. Simple hygiene practices will go a long way in keeping you and your family safe. Washing hands, covering sneezes, bumping elbows instead of shaking hands may seem small individually, but collectively these practices can help prevent the spread of germs and viruses.

We at Pure Romance are taking the advice of health professionals, but locally and nationally, and we suggest you do the same. If you’re looking for more information on the coronavirus, click HERE to read more from the Centers for Disease Control. Take care of yourself, and watch for more updates from Pure Romance on the rescheduled World Conference. We can’t wait to see you this summer!

Celebrate International Women’s Day

Sunday, March 8 is a special day, and not just because many of us will be moving our clocks ahead one hour to “spring forward” for more daylight hours in the evening. Sunday, March 8 is International Women’s Day, a day to celebrate women’s achievements and assess what still needs to be done.

This year’s theme is #EachforEqual, including equal rights, equal pay and equal opportunities. For example, did you know that this year’s Equal Pay Day is March 31? It’s the date that symbolizes how far into the year women must work to earn what men earned in the previous year.

An article on payscale.com looking at gender and pay shows that women still made only $0.79 for every dollar men made in 2019. “In other words, the median salary for men is roughly 21 percent higher than the median salary for women,” the article states.

In addition, their study found that “when men and women with the same employment characteristics do similar jobs, women earn $0.98 for every dollar earned by an equivalent man. In other words, a woman who is doing the same job as a man, with the same qualifications is still paid two percent less.”

Besides wages, International Women’s Day lists a number of missions, including “To assist women to be in a position of power for making informed decisions about their health.” One example listed under health and inequality states that “the disempowerment and discrimination against women and girls in our global society often puts them at a greater health risk than men.” According to the World Health Organization, that can include:

  • unbalanced power relationships between men and women
  • social circumstances that lessen education and paid employment opportunities
  • an exclusive focus on women’s need to reproduce
  • potential or actual experience of physical, sexual and emotional abuse
  • poverty, such as malnutrition and an unsafe cooking environment
  • problems accessing information

This link between gender and health has also been highlighted by the Jean Hailes’ Women’s Health Survey 2019, which found almost one in six (16%) women surveyed felt they have experienced discrimination in accessing healthcare.

Yes, there have been advances over the years, but women still have work to do to make the future better for our daughters and granddaughters. March 8 is a day to celebrate YOU, the strong women who fight for equality every day!

Want to read more about International Women’s Day? Check out the official website here!

Sex Ed Never Ends

Think about all the stories you heard when you were a kid about sex from your friends—most of which weren’t true, but were enough to scare you. Even if you took a sex education class, the whole idea of sex was pretty frightening. Turns out, those early lessons about sex can come back to haunt us, even as adults.

A recent study in the American Journal of Sexuality Education, reported in an article by health.com, asked nearly 200 women to share the messages they received about sex when they were kids. No surprise, the majority said they had only negative experiences from the likes of parents, religious leaders, and now, even social media!

And those messages, the article says, can be long-lasting. “It’s not too much of a leap to connect negative messages about sex to difficulty reaching orgasm, body image issues, a lifeless libido, and less satisfying sex in general,” the article points out.

For example, one participant is quoted as saying they “…wish that I wouldn’t have been taught about sex as if it were a bad thing, from my school.” Another said her sex talk from her parents was “Don’t have sex. If you have sex, you’re going to get pregnant and we’re going to kick you out.”

So how do you develop a more positive attitude about sex? Here are four suggestions the participants came up with, including:

  • Having open dialogues about sex with both friends and family.
  • Getting more, and better, sex education.
  • Becoming more body positive.
  • Ditching gender stereotypes.

The article concludes that “It’s undeniable that young women need positive messages about reproductive and sexual health as part of their upbringing.” But it’s not just young women, it’s women of all ages! Sex education doesn’t stop when you’re out of school, it goes on throughout our lives. Let’s make sure our daughters and others get the correct messages about sex as they’re growing up.

 

Friendships make the heart grow stronger

Happy Valentine’s Week! The holiday is just too big for one day, so let’s celebrate all week! Especially for those of us who not only celebrate Valentine’s, but also “Galentines” Day, a day to be with your best gal pals!

Here’s a brief history of Galentines Day: If you were a fan of Parks and Recreation, you might remember in the second season Leslie Knope brought some of her best girlfriends together for lunch on February 13th, and it became Galentines Day. It’s enough of a holiday that Cosmopolitan has come up with a list of gifts that you might want to buy your gal pals because, as the article says, “it’s a day dedicated to showing the most important people in your life how much you care about them. It’s corny. It’s cheesy. And that’s what makes it great.” Pure Romance also has a gift guide for your gal pals with goodies they’ll be sure to love!

There’s also science behind celebrating your friendship, according to an article by the Mayo Clinic. “Good friends are good for your health,” says a recent article. “Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship, too.” Celebrate your friendships with a Galentines party! Click here to throw the best Galentines party ever!

Whether you’re celebrating Galentines or Valentines, make it a week to remember!

Music to Your Ears

Music is a part of our lives, either consciously or unconsciously. You might have the radio on as you drive around town, or have your phone’s playlist blasting in your earbuds during your commute. Music becomes the background noise, the soundtrack of our lives. And, science now tells us, it’s important for our love lives, as well.

An article on bustle.com says there’s scientific evidence that music can affect our love lives. “Music, whether it’s the tone or the song, does affect our brains, even when it comes to dating and sex,” the article states. “From getting us in the mood to altering how we perceive romantic interests, listening to music can have some crazy effects on our love lives.”

How, you may ask? Well, here’s an example: When you’re listening to music, the brain releases dopamine, the pleasure hormone, according to Robert Zatorre at Montreal Neurological Institute.

Also, music can boost sex drives, especially in men. Dr. Y. Mark Hong, a urologist, says men who have low testosterone and want to boost their sex drive should try listening to music—it CAN set the mood!

In addition, researchers from McGill University found that listening to certain kinds of stimulating music increases our signs of arousal. An article on goodmenproject.com says, “it looks like you can maximize your feel-good chemical release by listening to music while having sex — that is, by engaging in two major activities that cause dopamine release at the same time.”

Sounds like an idea for a new playlist, doesn’t it? If you haven’t updated your music in a while, this is a great reason to do so—it makes you feel better and can lead to better sex. So crank up the tunes and enjoy!


To read more about the studies, check out the bustle.com article HERE and for more information on the goodmenproject.com story on why listening to music makes sex better, click HERE!