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ALL Relationships Are Royalty!

Did you get up bright and early last Saturday morning to watch the royal wedding? (Well, it wasn’t very bright at 4:30 a.m. when I was up!) Millions around the world took time out to watch Prince Harry, whom we have watched grow up, mourned with him in his sorrow and celebrated in his joy,  marry his American princess, Meghan Markle.

What fascinates us about relationships like this? Maybe it’s the relationship itself and how two people with vastly different backgrounds can meet and connect the way they seemingly do. Relationships are important for all of us, whether they are with a partner or with our friends.

An article by Harvard researchers indicates that meaningful relationships are important for our emotional, mental and physical health. “Good, close relationships appear to buffer us from the problems of getting old,” according to Dr. Robert Waldinger with Massachusetts General Hospital.

The article outlines a decades-old study of what made people happy as they aged. The findings include:

  • Social connections appear to be good for health
  • Loneliness appears to be toxic
  • Relationship quality matters “Living in conflict, such as in a high-conflict marriage, is bad for your health. Living in the midst of warm relationships is perhaps protective,” said Dr. Waldinger.
  • Good relationships seem to protect our brain. “Being in a securely attached relationship is protective in your 80s,” he said. “Those people’s memories stay sharper longer.”

As Pure Romance consultants, we’re in the relationship business. Sure, we make our parties fun and that’s part of getting together with your girlfriends to enjoy an evening out. But we want your relationship with your partner to be constructive, too. There’s scientific proof to show that it’s good for you, well into your golden years!

So to Meghan and Harry, we wish them a long, healthy relationship and a long, healthy life. And if you’d like to read more of the Harvard article, check it out here.

Better Sex, Better Skin

OK, so sex may not replace a good moisturizer or sunscreen but now there’s scientific proof that a healthy sex life can mean healthier skin and hair. And if you really needed an excuse for having more sex (and really, who needs an excuse?) studies show that it’s just good for your overall health.

An article in Women’s Health magazine lists five reasons why sex is good for you, including: An improved overall glow. Sex, the article reminds us, helps improve blood circulation, increasing the flow of oxygen to the skin and other organs. “This boost in circulation is what brightens the complexion and gives your skin that glow,” says Dr. Joel Schlessinger, a board-certified dermatologist quoted in the article. “It also increases your heart rate, which gets the blood flowing.”

Sex also can help you build stronger hair and nails, according to Dr. Schlessinger. “Research has shown that sex improves the body’s ability to absorb and metabolize nutrients effectively,” the doctor is quoted in the article. “An increase in those essential vitamins and minerals means healthier hair and stronger nails in the long run.”

And, while more sex may keep us up at night, the eventual payoff is better sleep, according to the article, which points out that oxytocin, released during sex, helps us relax. “Often referred to as the cuddle hormone, oxytocin floods the brain when we have sex,” says Dr. Nicholas Sieveking, a board-certified plastic surgeon. “this is what gives us that sleepy, relaxed feeling after an orgasm.”

Of course, Pure Romance is here to help your clients (and you!) have better health. After all, it’s exactly what the doctor ordered!

Want to read more about sex and your health? Here’s the full article.

It’s a Marathon, not a Sprint!

Today I’m going to brag a bit about my family, but I also want to talk a little bit about empowering—and empowered–women. First, the bragging part: Our home town, Cincinnati, holds a marathon the first Sunday in May called the Flying Pig Marathon. It’s a huge event—this year more than 43,000 participated in the weekend! Well, on Sunday, my daughter, Lauren, finished the 26.2 miles of the Flying Pig!

I was so proud to see her be successful at something she had trained for, for months. And the example that she has set for all of us, to set a goal, to work hard for it, and accomplish it, is truly inspiring.

But there is a lesson here for all of us: You know, it hasn’t been that long ago that women weren’t allowed to run marathons. Katherine Switzer broke ground some 50 years ago by being the first woman to register and run the Boston Marathon. In the Olympics, men have been running the marathon since 1896, but it took nearly 90 more years for the women’s marathon event to be added to the 1984 Olympics in Los Angeles. Why? The so-called “experts” thought running would be bad for women’s reproductive systems!

Well, we know we’re stronger than that! But the same traits that let us run marathons, let us succeed in our businesses: Setting our sights on what we want to accomplish, coming up with a plan on how to do it, then work the plan.

A recent article in Inc.com looks at the primary trait that makes female entrepreneurs so successful, and it’s perseverance. Not every day is going to go smoothly, not every party is going to be a big sales day, but perseverance will get you where you want to go, whether it’s a financial goal, or a finish line.

Stay with it, it’s a marathon, but just like my daughter, you can do it!

Want to read more about female entrepreneurs? Read the full article here.

Learning to Be a Leader

You take on a lot of responsibility when you become a Pure Romance Consultant: Not only are you running your own business, but you are teaching others to do the same while you counsel the women who come to parties who may ask you questions that they may not want to ask anyone else, even their doctors.

That’s why it’s important for you to be a leader in your business, and in your life. An interesting article in Forbes talks about how women can send off the vibe of being a leader, without even saying a word. The Secrets of Leadership Presence for Every Woman Leader looks at what we, as women, can do to command a room without saying a word.

“We surveyed 25 rising women leaders and found that 65% identified leadership presence as a skill they are most eager to develop,” the authors said. The reason? They know that this is the one asset that will help them receive the respect in business they need and that they deserve.

So how do you project leadership? The article suggests three areas to work on:

  • Often, the articled says, women blame themselves if something goes wrong (“I wasn’t good enough”) while men blame someone – or something – else.
  • Establish your unique voice. Few of us like to hear our own voice, but it’s a good way for you to learn how others hear you. Record yourself talking: It can be as elaborate as a video of one of your parties, or as simple as hitting ‘record’ on your phone and talking into the screen. Listen to how your voice sounds. Do you use verbal crutches like ‘um’ or ‘you know?’ Work on sounding authoritative without sounding bossy. You can catch people’s attention just by speaking confidently.
  • Check your physical presence. Do you stand tall? When you meet someone do you look them in the eye? Do you engage in conversations? All these messages project a physical engagement with those aroundyou.

These are simple techniques that all of us can, and should, work on to stand out, to command attention, to look authoritative but confident. Giving a presentation? Ask for feedback. How did I do? It will help you refine your leadership skills.

Read the full article here.

Thank You for 25 Years

25 years ago, if you would have told me that I would be celebrating my 25th anniversary as the Founder and Chairwoman of my own company, a company that gives women across the world an opportunity to change their lives and empower other woman along the way, I would have stared at you in disbelief.

Like many of you, when I started Pure Romance, my “Why” was to provide a better life for my family. Over the years, Pure Romance has grown into something much bigger than anything I could have ever imagined, and I could not be more grateful. There are so many people I would like to say thank you to:

  • To the people who believed in me and our mission. 

  • To those who stayed with me when they could have 
chosen a different path.
  • To my children, who started as my reason for this journey, 
but have since become a part of the journey and our growth.
  • To the people who helped me print my very first catalog.
  • To the vendors that help us create the best of the best.
  • To all the women who have stayed a student.
  • To all the strong, forward thinking women.
  • To all the Consultants who bring our mission and 
products into people’s homes every single night.
  • To everyone who believes in our products.
  • To the women who believe in more than just the sale of a product.
  • To the naysayers for fueling my fire.
  • To the women who believe in empowering and educating women on their sexuality, sexual health, and providing a safe environment for these women.
  • To the women who believe in changing lives, whether it be their own, their families, or someone else’s.
  • To the Consultants we’ve gained in acquisitions for embracing change and joining the 
Pure Romance family.
  • To every single one of you who have taken a leap of faith and believed that you can do this.
  • To the Pure Romance staff. The best advice I was ever given was to surround yourself with the best, so that’s what I’ve done. Without their dedication, hard work and passion, I would not be where I am today.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, from the bottom of my heart to every single person who has turned my dream into a reality.

Looking back, I don’t know that there would be too many things that I would change throughout this journey. I never thought I would build a company that my family would be involved in, that we’d grow as much as we have, or that the city of Cincinnati would support us in the way that they have. It’s amazing to know that each and every day, we are continuously opening up more doors and providing more resources for not just women, but for all people to learn more about their sexuality. We will always be a company, that educates, a company that fosters acceptance and understanding, and an organization on the cutting edge of research and discovery. We don’t just sell products. We better the lives of those around us, and those experiences positively impact people every single day. That is why we do what we do.

In the beginning of my journey, my “Why” was my family … Today, my “Why” is still my family: it’s you. And together, we’re creating bigger and better dreams for women all over the world.

It’s been 25 years, but our journey has just begun.