Resolve for more in 2020
So many of our new year’s resolutions have to do with less—I’m going to cut out this, I’m going to quit that. But I’m here to tell you, we should be asking for MORE—especially when it comes to our sex lives!
This is the time when our resolutions should include a better sex life, and sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler at the Buehler Institute says the new year is the perfect time to make those promises to ourselves—and to our partner—to have a better sex life in the new year. Among her seven suggestions are:
- Be more affectionate. It can be as simple as holding hands on a walk or cuddling while watching TV. “Be generous with loving touch and watch your partner glow,” she says.
- Try new things, both in and out of the bedroom. That includes new toys, lubes and other unexpected bedroom additions. “Doing new things in the bedroom shows sexual interest and rouses the brain,” she says. “Doing new things out of the bedroom—cooking a new recipe together, visiting a new part of town—also perks up the brain and makes the prospect of sex more fun.”
- Put your relationship first. It’s hard to do with work and kids, but Dr. Buehler says it’s important to remember who’ll be there when you need support. “When you make decisions about how you will spend your time and your emotional energy, put your lover first,” she says, “and everything else will fall into place.”
A new year gives us a time to reflect on the past 12 months and look ahead to the promises of the next 12. One promise you should keep is to reconnect with your partner and have a better sex life. That’ll make the entire year better!
Read more of Dr. Buehler’s suggestions on a better sex life in the new year HERE!