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Valentine’s Day – 365 Days a Year

Valentine’s Day holds a special meaning for our Pure Romance Consultants; it’s nothing short of a National Holiday for us: an annual reminder of how important OUR work is to helping couples keep the spark alive in their relationships. It’s our mission to show how communication, and investment of time and energy into your relationship can make love and passion go the distance. It’s also the time that we remind others that this shouldn’t be a one -time gig. I’ve seen the guys running frantically into the card shop to grab last minute flowers, cards and candy because the holiday crept up on them a little too soon. It’s the little things throughout the year – the heartfelt gestures of love – that matter the most. Today should just be the icing on the cake for a loving relationship that prioritizes thoughtfulness, appreciation and effort all year long.

And let’s get something straight – don’t feel sorry for all of the singles out there. As a single woman myself, I know that Valentine’s Day is also a day of LOVE, and that means showing love to ALL that are important to you in your life: mothers and daughters, siblings, friends, co-workers, even your pets!

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For me, it’s about celebrating self-love and independence. I love getting together with close girlfriends and doing something to pamper ourselves, like catching up over a manicure, or indulging in long-deserved massages.

What do you plan to do this Valentine’s Day? Whether you’re single or attached, make a commitment to love yourself and give thanks for all those you love in your life. It’s truly a blessing.

Say “I Do”…Every Year

A friend recently emailed me a link to a story on the TODAY Show’s website that featured a couple celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary who recreated their wedding photos.

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It reminded me of an older couple named Bill and Jeanne that lived in my neighborhood when I was a teenager. Bill worked the night shift at Ford Motors and every year on their anniversary, he’d come home to Jeanne cooking dinner for him in her wedding dress. Never being married at that time (and just learning about love), I remember thinking it was a little strange and not for me. But looking back at it now, I think it’s a great example of how this couple made a special effort to celebrate the love that brought them together. Every couple is different in the way they do so, but as long as they are doing it, that’s the most important thing.

Most wedding dresses never see the light of day after the Big Day, so they certainly got the most bang for their buck! Not to mention, Jeanne loved using the dress as a way stay on top of fitness and was proud to say she fit in her wedding dress every year. I’ll never forget her advice to me to always keep yourself in check – this couldn’t be more true as we start to settle into comfortable routines and run the danger of taking our partner for granted.

When we fall in love, we sometimes forget where it all started. We don’t take the time to remember those early butterflies, and recreating your first date or looking through old photos to relive memories together is a wonderful way to reignite the embers of passion.

If you are reading this blog, we know you already understand the benefits of intimacy and relationship enhancement products offered by Pure Romance; what else do you and your significant other do to keep the romance alive? Please share some thoughts in my comments section on how you keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship.

Are You Beautiful or Average?

Be honest: How do you think of yourself? Do you think you’re beautiful? Average? Do you care what others think? Take a minute to watch the video below and think about some of these questions. Really think about it.

For me, I would have chosen the “Beautiful” doorway. There are many ways to define beautiful. The media often convinces us that unless we are runway models waltzing off the cover of Vogue magazine, we are not beautiful. Beauty is how you feel inside. It’s a big, optimistic smile. Twinkling, life-loving eyes. Wrinkles, yes, even wrinkles that have been earned over a life of excitement, experience and wisdom.

It really struck me when I saw a mother and her daughter talk about the different doorways they would have passed through. The mother knew how beautiful her daughter was, and wanted to pull her through the “Beautiful” door. This made me think about my daughter and my beautiful grandchildren – all who share a special light and beauty with the world. It would absolutely break my heart to think that any of them would question how beautiful they are – now or ever! Pop-culture, the media, and many other influencers can push their idea of beauty on us, but as long as we continue to teach our children and remind those we love just how wonderful they are, it’s my hope that they will ignore what others might think and embrace the uniqueness that each and every person brings to our planet.

Please share your thoughts in the comments section below. I’d love to hear how this video impacted you!

Love Has No Labels

There’s an old saying – you can choose your friends, but not your family (luckily for me, I’ve gotten pretty lucky in the family department!). I bring this up because when it comes to falling in love, it’s a lot like family – you don’t “pick” who you fall in love with – it has so much more to do with that powerful feeling that comes over you and a connection to another spirit that is often independent of gender, race or creed.

I’ve attended many LGBTQ events over the years, and it has opened my mind even further to the challenges many of these individuals face in our society. Once I listened to a gay couple talk about why gay marriage was especially important to them and about the adversity they faced when they wanted to adopt a child. In their particular case, the only children many adoption agencies would allow them to adopt were babies who were born from drug-addicted mothers. They brought one of these frail babies home with the commitment and intention to love this baby through everything. We parents know how hard it is to raise even a healthy newborn baby – sleepless nights and endless worry are always part of the package. Yet, here, they said that if something happened to one of the fathers and he was the legally-bound adopted father, the other would have absolutely no rights to the child.

Along those same lines, say a lesbian couple experiences a terrible accident and one is admitted into the hospital – the woman who has loved and dedicated her life to her partner is not allowed to enter the hospital because she’s not considered family. How can this be?

I believe when you have been so committed to someone, have loved him or her, and worked together through life’s day-to-day challenges – you have the right to be married – regardless of your gender. Love is love.

As PRIDE month comes to a close and Cincinnati PRIDE parade approaches this Saturday, I want to join other organizations like Procter & Gamble and Macy’s who have come forward to support this cause. Like the amazing video above, love truly has no labels.

The Men of Pure Romance

imageI was so pleased to see the response we received from the Father’s Day Men of Romance blog series last week. It was probably one of the most fun blogs I’ve had the opportunity to do. We often hear the cliché that “behind every great (and successful) man, there’s a great woman.” I think in this case we see that the reverse is often true! In this business, I work directly with the Pure Romance Consultants and don’t often get to meet the husbands and fathers who support them. There’s often the assumption that it’s one person’s obligation to keep things going, but these couples are showing us that there’s teamwork on both sides to keep a marriage and family on track. Even better, they aren’t just talking about how to do it, they are showing their children and all of us by example.

The way that the responses were written, it’s easy for people to think that their lives are fairytales, but they know that everyone has bumps in the road in life and it’s all about how you deal with them. These couples have a plan in place and have one another’s backs – it was a true inspiration!

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