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Track your Orgasms…?

I recently read an article on Forbes.com, and wanted to share it with all of you. The feature talks about activity tracker “wearables” that may soon allow you to track your orgasms. (Now that I have your attention!) An activity tracker is a device that is used for monitoring and tracking fitness-related metrics such as running, walking and sometimes heartbeat or sleep.

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Imagine the amount of measurable data that could be gathered in regards to sexual health and sexuality with something like this. Think of that woman whose own physician has told her time and time again that issues with sexual pleasure are all in her mind. Being able to share information gathered by this device with your doctor is a good first step in opening up the floor about your sexual health. He or she isn’t with you every day tracking your sexual activity or physical response to intimacy and pleasure; this is an interesting way to allow your health care professional in on that world in a more scientific way.

It also could help increase communication among couples. Being able to openly look at the data gathered by this type of wearable could allow for dialogue that otherwise might have been uncomfortable. On another note, it could even encourage couples to be more intimately active – as we all know, practice makes perfect applies to all aspects in life!

The developers claim that you will also be able to track heartbreak (although many of us would like to forget that as soon as possible).

One wearable that’s been getting mixed media attention over the past few months is the Fitbit. Regardless of your view on whether they do or do not accurately track your heart rate, many do find this type of wearable a good way to stay committed to fitness. In my experience, I found that the FitBit helped keep me on track, get into juicing and make 2016 a year about becoming a better, healthier me – not just about losing weight. I’m hoping something like this new wearable could have the same effect on couples and help enhance sexual health and awareness in the process.

 

Home Alone

It’s December – the time of year our TVs are flooded with holiday classics like It’s a Wonderful Life, A Christmas Story and Home Alone. It’s only fitting that I spend a few minutes talking about a more grown-up version of “Home Alone.” Launched in late summer, Pure Romance’s Home Alone is currently one of our top-selling products! It’s a 30-speed contoured, high quality silicone clitoral vibrator that is petite and unintimidating – perfect for the discreet woman, and for the partner that is new to welcoming an intimacy product or adult toy into the bedroom.Screen Shot 2015-11-30 at 3.59.03 PM

Our Consultants also love the versatility of Home Alone. Its wide range of pulse patterns and speeds provide an incredible range of intensities. A “jack of all trades,” it can offer super power, but also gentle rhythms for those who want to build up pleasure over time.

What I especially love about Home Alone is that its curvy shape allows it to double as a full-body massager. The soft texture feels amazing on your skin – I can’t tell you how many times I’ve turned to this product to treat tense and tight muscles around my neck and shoulders after long business trips, or often just because! Many of you reading this can probably relate – in this day and age, we are all sitting hunched over computers day in and day out, and it’s an inexpensive way to skip the regular visits to the masseuse. Oh, and did I mention it’s bath-proof? I’ve always encouraged women to spoil themselves and what better way to experience a massage than soaking in a hot bath in the comfort of your home?

Other awesome features include a rechargeable motor and a small built in light that will help you navigate the buttons in the dark. I don’t know about you, but whether you’ve been naughty or nice (wink, wink), this seems to be something that will be at the top of many ladies’ wish lists!

 

“Addyi” to Add Hope for Women with Low Libido

Flibanserin, now referred to as Addyi to the public, is a drug that’s been under study as a non-hormonal treatment for pre-menopausal women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder; it’s expected to be widely available at pharmacies October 17.

Clinical Trials for Addyi have been performed on 11,000 women making it the largest ever for a women’s drug! These extensive trials found the drug increased their desire, decreased their distress and increased their number of sexual events. Importantly, the drug has shown minimal side effects compared to those for male sexual dysfunction – in fact, compared to most drugs, period. It’s time to trust pre-menopausal women with this condition (and the health practitioners who advise them), to decide if this is right for them. 

Although Addyi is often referred to as “female Viagra,” it works entirely differently. Unlike the blue pill, which increases blood flow to the genitals and is taken only as-needed, Addyi targets the central nervous system and is taken every day. Over time it alters the balance of chemicals in the brain, in a fashion not unlike what you see with antidepressants. On the technical level, it boosts dopamine and norepinephrine, which are tied to sexual excitement, while regulating serotonin, which is linked to sexual inhibition. This, its supporters say, increases women’s desire.

I’m so excited to finally see notable progress in this arena. When it comes sexual health research women are light years behind men! Men’s sexual health research started in the 1970’s – with 26 now approved medications for male sexual dysfunction. Although the FDA approved Viagra for men in 1998, and a host of prescription drugs since then, the FDA has not approved any medications for women’s sexual function. The FDA describes this as an “unmet medical need.”

“An unmet need…” I’ve listened to tens of thousands of stories from women across the world since starting Pure Romance; I can say with confidence, this is an unmet medical need in our society. Its passage is groundbreaking for women suffering from the disorder, and also opens doors for future research and advances in the field of women’s sexual health. It’s issues like these that motivated me to start the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health in 2005. Since starting the Foundation, we are proud to say we have raised $2.5 million for sexual health research. Yet, there is still more work to be done and a huge need for research and education in this field.

For women that suffer from sexual dysfunction and who are trying to make their relationships stronger, it can be heartbreaking. It’s not their fault if the sexual desire just isn’t there. 1 in 10 women suffer from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder; while, about 5 percent of men in their 40’s suffer from sexual dysfunction. Women have come a long way in our society over the last century, from lobbying for the right to vote to successfully balancing family and careers. It’s time to talk about equality when it comes to the big pink elephant in the room – gender equality in the field of sexual health research. If you would like to learn more about this topic or the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health, please visit our foundation website.

Click below to watch my interview on this topic on Cincinnati’s Local 12 News below!

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Today’s To-Do List: Sex

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How many of you have met someone and couldn’t keep your hands off one another, then one morning you wake up and all you can think about is your laundry list of To-Dos, with sex at the bottom of the list. Well, guess what? You’ll always have To-Dos and it’s up to you to put sex where it belongs on that list.

After almost three decades of working with couples, I’ve seen how lack of effort when it comes to intimacy can affect relationships. A study spotlighted this trend and showed that sexual intimacy is the link that keeps partners positive about their marriages in the face of adversity, and a lack of sex makes things worse.

We don’t plan to lose that “honeymoon phase,” but we just get comfortable. We gravitate in different directions…he’s in the recliner with the remote watching the game, and she’s putting the kids to bed, packing lunches, doing laundry – the two reunite in the bedroom and think Should we do it? And then say, “We’ll do it tomorrow.”

This reminds me of a an episode of What Not to Wear which featured a woman who admitted she normally wears a frumpy T-shirt, “mom jeans” and hiking sandals on date- night with her husband. When the hosts asked if she ever put something on that made her feel sexy, she said once a year on their anniversary. She then went on to say, “We’ve been married 11 years, we have kids that take up most of our attention; the ‘wow’ factor just goes out the window.”

While many of us can relate, it doesn’t have to be this way. Just like we have to fight excuses like I’ll start exercising tomorrow, we have to commit every day to making an effort when it comes to our relationships and sexual exploration. Some mistakenly think that marital sex is doomed to get boring. For example, Country Singer Blake Shelton joked while hosting the CMA Awards: “I thought ‘Same Sex Marriage’ referred to the fact that you have the same sex every day” (his wife was looking on in the front row – and let me tell you, she didn’t look too pleased!).

It’s like when a new trainer tells you to start eating healthy and all you eat is chicken and salad for two weeks straight. We don’t want to think creatively about all of the options out there for healthy meals, because we look at it as work. But once we start trying new recipes, we’re often very surprised! The same goes for our sex lives! Of course it’s easier to just go through a drive through, but that’s just plain lazy and if there’s one thing we shouldn’t be when it comes to our intimate lives, it’s lazy – no matter how in love or committed we are.

Ask yourself, are you really seeking out your happiness by placing intimacy on the back burner? You may not even realize that you are compromising your health, your relationship and connection with this other person – and I truly believe that you connect better when you’re physical with one another. Of course, there are those who are suffering from mental or physical obstacles to intimacy and in that case, it’s important that they consult with their physician for advice and council. Regardless of what your particular situation might be, the bottom line is that the first step is putting attention on what’s important to you.

 

Be Your Best Advocate

PBF Final Blog PhotoI recently scheduled a meeting on behalf of The Patty Brisben Foundation For Women’s Sexual Health with a psychiatrist who works with abused women with pain so deep, sometimes they don’t even have a clear understanding of the origin of the pain or how to resolve it. During the meeting, she asked me, “Patty, do you ever have women who come to Pure Romance Parties who have confided that they don’t even want to be touched?” The answer was a resounding “Yes.”  When these women began to open up to me and our Consultants about sexual health issues that they didn’t even feel comfortable discussing with their own healthcare providers, I knew we had to do something and I launched my foundation shortly after.  Continue reading