Tag Archives: relationships

Track your Orgasms…?

I recently read an article on Forbes.com, and wanted to share it with all of you. The feature talks about activity tracker “wearables” that may soon allow you to track your orgasms. (Now that I have your attention!) An activity tracker is a device that is used for monitoring and tracking fitness-related metrics such as running, walking and sometimes heartbeat or sleep.

Screen Shot 2016-03-18 at 10.24.32 AM

Imagine the amount of measurable data that could be gathered in regards to sexual health and sexuality with something like this. Think of that woman whose own physician has told her time and time again that issues with sexual pleasure are all in her mind. Being able to share information gathered by this device with your doctor is a good first step in opening up the floor about your sexual health. He or she isn’t with you every day tracking your sexual activity or physical response to intimacy and pleasure; this is an interesting way to allow your health care professional in on that world in a more scientific way.

It also could help increase communication among couples. Being able to openly look at the data gathered by this type of wearable could allow for dialogue that otherwise might have been uncomfortable. On another note, it could even encourage couples to be more intimately active – as we all know, practice makes perfect applies to all aspects in life!

The developers claim that you will also be able to track heartbreak (although many of us would like to forget that as soon as possible).

One wearable that’s been getting mixed media attention over the past few months is the Fitbit. Regardless of your view on whether they do or do not accurately track your heart rate, many do find this type of wearable a good way to stay committed to fitness. In my experience, I found that the FitBit helped keep me on track, get into juicing and make 2016 a year about becoming a better, healthier me – not just about losing weight. I’m hoping something like this new wearable could have the same effect on couples and help enhance sexual health and awareness in the process.

 

Valentine’s Day – 365 Days a Year

Valentine’s Day holds a special meaning for our Pure Romance Consultants; it’s nothing short of a National Holiday for us: an annual reminder of how important OUR work is to helping couples keep the spark alive in their relationships. It’s our mission to show how communication, and investment of time and energy into your relationship can make love and passion go the distance. It’s also the time that we remind others that this shouldn’t be a one -time gig. I’ve seen the guys running frantically into the card shop to grab last minute flowers, cards and candy because the holiday crept up on them a little too soon. It’s the little things throughout the year – the heartfelt gestures of love – that matter the most. Today should just be the icing on the cake for a loving relationship that prioritizes thoughtfulness, appreciation and effort all year long.

And let’s get something straight – don’t feel sorry for all of the singles out there. As a single woman myself, I know that Valentine’s Day is also a day of LOVE, and that means showing love to ALL that are important to you in your life: mothers and daughters, siblings, friends, co-workers, even your pets!

image

For me, it’s about celebrating self-love and independence. I love getting together with close girlfriends and doing something to pamper ourselves, like catching up over a manicure, or indulging in long-deserved massages.

What do you plan to do this Valentine’s Day? Whether you’re single or attached, make a commitment to love yourself and give thanks for all those you love in your life. It’s truly a blessing.

Pure Romance Takes New York City!

We recently traveled to the Big Apple to attend several media events to help spread the word of the amazing work our Consultants  are doing and highlight our products leading up to Valentine’s Day. This trip was a long-time in the making; it all started last year at the Pink Ribbon Luncheon when I was honored at the event. Good Morning America’s Robin Roberts was the featured speaker and I was so excited about the opportunity to hear her tell her story in person. I start every single one of my mornings with her and can’t think of a woman I admire more. She has inspired so many with her strength and determination in overcoming life-threatening experiences: especially with her battle with breast cancer and subsequent blood cancer and bone marrow transplant. Watching her speak that day, I was moved beyond words. It goes without saying, I bid on the event’s Good Morning America auction package to visit the set of my favorite anchorwoman.

Fast-forward to 2016, where we reunited with Robin on set in New York and received a behind the scenes look at how the show is produced (it was like a well-oiled machine, by the way!). I’ve also never been on any talk show set (besides Live! Kelly and Michael) that was so warm and friendly.

No matter how busy and hectic it was, Robin took her time to make sure she introduced me to everyone she worked with, and she showed incredible thoughtfulness by remembering our earlier conversations about The Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health. This gave me the opportunity to continue this dialogue with many of the others there that day, which was a huge honor. They embraced the message and showed sincere interest in exploring it further in the future. It was awesome to see national media influencers understanding that sexual health is the pink elephant in the room, and to hear them agree that it’s a topic that everyone needs to address. It fueled me even further to continue pressing further in this arena.

Pure Romance Consultants aren’t the only ones who challenge themselves to step outside of their comfort zones advocating on behalf of women’s sexual health and intimacy. We also push ourselves; that continued with a subsequent blogger and journalist event at the Museum of Sex, which led to coverage in a few blogs, such as Urban Milan: Valentine’s Gifts for Her, and prospects for many more.

My PR Director, Suzanne Murray, stepped out of her comfort zone volunteering for an on-air dance competition (and winning) on Live! Kelly and Michael Show later in the week! I love that our team, much like our Consultants, does life different. Because of Suzanne’s boldness, we were able to get Pure Romance gift boxes in the hands of Kelly and Michael!

12552949_955563284520080_8660071145113049563_n

We also stopped by to visit our old friends at The View to provide a beautiful audience giveaway including some of Pure Romance’s top pampering products and my favorite perfume, Truly Sexy – Flirt.  We had to go in early that morning for their crew to shoot the product before the show went on air. It was a quick process because the packaging is so beautiful and elegant – we felt proud to watch New York-based producers on a national broadcast show gawking at the boutique-like products. They were excited and impressed with it. Some had heard of it, and those who hadn’t couldn’t wait to check it out. 12669505_957724584303950_8594364928424492062_n

This was the day I was the most afraid – mainly because I knew that this segment was all about our Consultants and it was so important to me to make sure that the little amount of time I had to talk about our Pure Romance mission and products was loud and clear. I wanted to make sure that more than anything that during my interview portion I got the message across that we are a company that focuses on enhancing communication in relationships, first and foremost. I was most proud of the product shot because I believe they speak for themselves, and the world got to see the beautiful packaging and that we have a wide array of products – truly something for everyone.

FullSizeRender-2For those of you who want legitimacy and to show your clients you are working for the top relationship company in the world, take advantage of this national exposure.  Use the clips, pictures, and blog mentions to your advantage; it is a great way to showcase the products, and is yet another reason to reach out to your customers.  Check out how Executive Director Dana Barish pushed this out on her social media network.

 

On Social Media, it might have looked like our trip was just filled with shopping, work and fun (you can have fun while working), but hopefully this blog shows that we were there for you, and that we were a team of people who went in there with a job and got it done!

“Addyi” to Add Hope for Women with Low Libido

Flibanserin, now referred to as Addyi to the public, is a drug that’s been under study as a non-hormonal treatment for pre-menopausal women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder; it’s expected to be widely available at pharmacies October 17.

Clinical Trials for Addyi have been performed on 11,000 women making it the largest ever for a women’s drug! These extensive trials found the drug increased their desire, decreased their distress and increased their number of sexual events. Importantly, the drug has shown minimal side effects compared to those for male sexual dysfunction – in fact, compared to most drugs, period. It’s time to trust pre-menopausal women with this condition (and the health practitioners who advise them), to decide if this is right for them. 

Although Addyi is often referred to as “female Viagra,” it works entirely differently. Unlike the blue pill, which increases blood flow to the genitals and is taken only as-needed, Addyi targets the central nervous system and is taken every day. Over time it alters the balance of chemicals in the brain, in a fashion not unlike what you see with antidepressants. On the technical level, it boosts dopamine and norepinephrine, which are tied to sexual excitement, while regulating serotonin, which is linked to sexual inhibition. This, its supporters say, increases women’s desire.

I’m so excited to finally see notable progress in this arena. When it comes sexual health research women are light years behind men! Men’s sexual health research started in the 1970’s – with 26 now approved medications for male sexual dysfunction. Although the FDA approved Viagra for men in 1998, and a host of prescription drugs since then, the FDA has not approved any medications for women’s sexual function. The FDA describes this as an “unmet medical need.”

“An unmet need…” I’ve listened to tens of thousands of stories from women across the world since starting Pure Romance; I can say with confidence, this is an unmet medical need in our society. Its passage is groundbreaking for women suffering from the disorder, and also opens doors for future research and advances in the field of women’s sexual health. It’s issues like these that motivated me to start the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health in 2005. Since starting the Foundation, we are proud to say we have raised $2.5 million for sexual health research. Yet, there is still more work to be done and a huge need for research and education in this field.

For women that suffer from sexual dysfunction and who are trying to make their relationships stronger, it can be heartbreaking. It’s not their fault if the sexual desire just isn’t there. 1 in 10 women suffer from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder; while, about 5 percent of men in their 40’s suffer from sexual dysfunction. Women have come a long way in our society over the last century, from lobbying for the right to vote to successfully balancing family and careers. It’s time to talk about equality when it comes to the big pink elephant in the room – gender equality in the field of sexual health research. If you would like to learn more about this topic or the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health, please visit our foundation website.

Click below to watch my interview on this topic on Cincinnati’s Local 12 News below!

Screen Shot 2015-09-16 at 10.57.55 AM

Say “I Do”…Every Year

A friend recently emailed me a link to a story on the TODAY Show’s website that featured a couple celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary who recreated their wedding photos.

Screen Shot 2015-09-04 at 2.06.30 PM

It reminded me of an older couple named Bill and Jeanne that lived in my neighborhood when I was a teenager. Bill worked the night shift at Ford Motors and every year on their anniversary, he’d come home to Jeanne cooking dinner for him in her wedding dress. Never being married at that time (and just learning about love), I remember thinking it was a little strange and not for me. But looking back at it now, I think it’s a great example of how this couple made a special effort to celebrate the love that brought them together. Every couple is different in the way they do so, but as long as they are doing it, that’s the most important thing.

Most wedding dresses never see the light of day after the Big Day, so they certainly got the most bang for their buck! Not to mention, Jeanne loved using the dress as a way stay on top of fitness and was proud to say she fit in her wedding dress every year. I’ll never forget her advice to me to always keep yourself in check – this couldn’t be more true as we start to settle into comfortable routines and run the danger of taking our partner for granted.

When we fall in love, we sometimes forget where it all started. We don’t take the time to remember those early butterflies, and recreating your first date or looking through old photos to relive memories together is a wonderful way to reignite the embers of passion.

If you are reading this blog, we know you already understand the benefits of intimacy and relationship enhancement products offered by Pure Romance; what else do you and your significant other do to keep the romance alive? Please share some thoughts in my comments section on how you keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship.