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What Women Really Want

While we’re still officially in summer, you might have noticed that the nights are getting longer and chillier, and we’re heading to cooler weather, just perfect for cuddling up with your significant other.

So a recent study led by our Pure Romance medical contributor, Debby Herbenick, director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, is especially timely. The study, published in USA Today and featured on CNN, was recently published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy. It surveyed 1,055 women ages 18 to 94 about their sex lives and sexual preferences.

No surprise, what women look for in their sexual encounters is different with each person. For example, only 18.4% of the women surveyed said intercourse alone was enough to make them orgasm. The study also showed that the women had varying preferences in how they preferred sex.

“Sometimes, when people are first getting together, they spend time making out…long before they start having oral sex or intercourse with each other,” Herbenick told CNN. “All too often, once oral sex and intercourse become part of their routine, the rest fades away.”

That’s why, as Consultants, it’s more important than ever for all of us to listen to what our clients tell us. They may be shy at first to talk about such intimate details, but it’s important for you to lead them to this discussion. That way, you can recommend various Pure Romance products that can help them spark their love life.

Want to read more about the study? Visit here and stay a student!

The Culture of Giving Back

Over these last few days I, just like you, have been glued to the television, watching the tragedy that is unfolding in the Houston area. With rain and flooding, the likes of which no one has ever seen, it’s a time that we all come together to help neighbors, friends, strangers. That’s what we do, help others in their time of need.

We as a company will be looking at ways to help those who live in the Houston area as the days unfold. And we’ll certainly keep you informed on how you can join in the relief effort in Texas.

But today, I’d like to remind you of how you can help a cause that, of course, is close to my heart, the Patty Brisben Foundation, and the work that we help fund around the globe. For example, did you know that nearly half of all women experience sexual difficulties at some point in life? Despite this, most healthcare providers receive very little training when it comes to sexuality, and even less in the area of female sexual health.

That’s why I am so passionate about the Foundation. We direct resources and fund research to advocate for women’s sexual health. We become a voice for women who can’t express their issues, are too shy to discuss problems with their doctor or don’t have medical resources readily available to them.

One easy way to help these women: Be part of our virtual Queen Bee 4-Miler, where you can walk or run four miles, all at once or over time, by yourself or with friends and family, and raise money for the Patty Brisben Foundation. The Queen Bee 4-Miler will be held in our home town of Cincinnati on Saturday, October 7, but you can finish your four miles on your own schedule.

Get more information through our Facebook group, Queen Bee Virtual 4 Miler (benefiting the Patty Brisben Foundation) and sign up here to join fellow consultants from 45 states and two countries who are ready to be Queen Bees and help the Patty Brisben Foundation!

Yes, You Can Have Sex During the Eclipse

Somewhere around midday today (depending on your time zone) most of the United States will get to experience most of, if not a total, solar eclipse. You’ve heard all the warnings about protecting your eyes during the eclipse, but did you know about some of the myths and superstitions involving an eclipse and sex?

According to, all kinds of folklore surrounds an eclipse. In Medieval times, people believed that sex during an eclipse would result in ugly demon-filled children. A modern superstition also has it that a pregnant woman shouldn’t touch her belly during an eclipse. Doing so will cause the baby to be born with a birthmark, the size of which depends on the force of the touch.

USA Today also lists a few more superstitions surrounding an eclipse, including warning pregnant women to not go outside during the eclipse. It’s believed pregnant women who are in the presence of the eclipse could cause their baby to have facial deformities or birth marks.

While there isn’t a proven reason why women who are expecting shouldn’t go outside during the event, we know you’re not supposed to look directly at the eclipse without eye protection. Suffice it to say, there are no proven eclipse-related health concerns specific to pregnant women or their babies.

And here’s one from ABC news about sex and the eclipse that’s particularly interesting: German myth has the cold and lazy male moon ignoring the fiery passionate female sun (!!) during the day most of the time, except for a few bits of passion they share during an eclipse. Then they’d squabble and the sun would resume shining again, doing fine all by herself.

In western Africa, it’s the same theme—the occasional and furtive rendezvous–but this time between the male sun and female moon, with the couple modestly turning out the lights during an eclipse.

At least one enterprising person is looking for love through the eclipse, according to An on-line ad states that the person is looking for “an attractive fit woman 25-45 to go on a five-day vacation to Western North Carolina during the solar eclipse.”

The ad describes a “lakefront penthouse suite at a beautiful B&B” with water sports, hiking and more. (What could go wrong at a B&B for four days with a perfect stranger?) And, at the peak of the eclipse, “it will be completely dark for 2 minutes and 24 seconds.” No word if there are any takers.

No matter how you experience it, a solar eclipse is a rare event that you should check out, but safely. Go ahead–feel free to have sex during the eclipse, despite the myths—and when the eclipse is over, you AND the sun will be glowing!

Top 10 Best U.S. Cities to Fall in Love

I had the amazing opportunity to spend my birthday this month in Bordeaux with my family and then traveled to the City of LOVE—Paris–with some of our top earning Consultants. It’s been so much fun touring, shopping and enjoying the cuisine and wine of France!

Paris, of course, is known as the most romantic city in the world with its intimate sidewalk cafés, historic sites and cultural landmarks. But visiting Paris got me to thinking—what are some of the best cities in the United State to find, and fall in, love? and author Maria Hagan came up with a survey a while back, with the help of Facebook analytics, to figure out the best cities to fall in love. And surprisingly, New York isn’t one of them. (neither are Washington, D.C., San Francisco or Los Angeles).

So what are the top 10 cities for love? Here they are:

10. Phoenix, AZ “Phoenix has a fast growing up-and-coming music and arts scene, making it an ideal spot for socializing,” according to the article.

9. Cincinnati, OH Our home town! I’d like to think Pure Romance has something to do with our city’s top 10 rating.  “It is an exciting, sociable city to be in with festivals taking place all year round,” says The Richest.

8. Tucson, AZ “The city is home to the University of Arizona, but is much more than just a college town,” the article notes. “Tucson draws on many of the benefits of a college town, offering cheap rent, cheap takeout, and cheap drinks around town.”

7. Indianapolis, IN “The city’s good livability and vibrancy make Indianapolis an agreeable place to live and to play the dating game,”

6. Oklahoma City, OK “With 95 males to every 100 females, the odds of pairing-up are almost perfect,” notes The Richest. “No longer the sleepy town that it was of old, the city is student-friendly and rich in cultural and sporting events.”

5. San Antonio, TX “The city is one of Texas’s most popular tourist destinations,” Hagan notes. “It is a vibrant place to be.”

4. Fort Worth, TX “Home to the world’s largest rodeo and a number of theatres, museums and music venues,” says The Richest, “Fort Worth’s nightlife is full of opportunities for finding love.”

3. Louisville, KY “A thriving indie music scene makes for an animated nightlife and sociable lifestyle,” says Hagan, “full of opportunities of meeting ‘the one.’”

2. El Paso, TX “The strong military presence in the city is thought to increase adherence to traditional values, and thus to encourage long-lasting relationships among its people,” the article says.

And the top place to fall in love??? (drum roll, please…)

1. Colorado Springs, CO “Residents are coupling up in committed relationships at the highest rate of all U.S. cities,” says The Richest. “As a college town and a prime location for outdoor sporting, the lifestyle is young, dynamic and social. A thriving downtown bar scene and the beautiful location of the city (with a snowy Rocky Mountain backdrop) only help encourage the city’s air of romance.”

There you have it, the Top 10 cities in the U.S. to find love. But whether or not you live in any of these cities, you can make your own romantic setting. And Pure Romance is here to help you do just that. Want to read more about these cities? Go to the article at  Happy romance, everyone!

It’s National Training Week!


We are always so excited to welcome our consultants for our training sessions and conferences but we’re especially thrilled this week to bring everyone in to our home town of Cincinnati for National Training! It’s going to be an amazing opportunity to “stay a student” and learn from each other, and from our experts on how to run your business, increase sales and generally become a better CEO of your own company and your own life.

In fact, there is research supporting the idea of continuing your education beyond the classroom. Ben Fraley and Mark Schaefer wrote a blog for Integrity Technology Solutions about the importance of continuing to learn, especially in the business field. One of the most important points they brought up was you can increase your productivity and efficiency. “The more a person becomes skilled at their job,” they say, “the more work that can be done in less time.” (And don’t we all want that??)

Education keeps us up to date on trends and topics and makes us experts in our field. Read more from their blog at Want more support for the idea of learning beyond graduation? Read this article from our friends at The Muse

National Training gives you a great forum to learn more about your business and about yourself as a small business owner. If you haven’t checked the complete schedule, you can download the app for Pure Romance National Training 2017 for the latest on speakers, activities and more. Some of the highlighted speakers include:


  • Brian Biro, breakthrough coach
  • Brian Parsley, certified professional behavior analyst and human capital strategist
  • Debby Herbenick, MPH, PhD, human sexuality expert
  • Ian Kerner, PhD, American sex counselor and author
  • Janelle Evans, MD, FACOG, FPMRS, OB-GYN and Urogynecologist
  • Madeleine Castellanos, MD, physician and sex therapist
  • Patricia Moreno, entrepreneur
  • Robyn Benincasa, entrepreneur

And, of course, Chris and I will be speaking as well.

It’s not all classes, of course, there’ll be happy hours, workout sessions in the morning, and we’re going to the Reds game this weekend. We’re looking forward to seeing you at this week’s National Training. We hope you’ll come away inspired and ready for a great year with Pure Romance!