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How Much Is Enough?

Ah yes, the age old question, how often should you and your partner have sex? A recent USA Today article looks at the issue and whether there is a magic number that’s right for all couples.

First, let’s look at how often: According to Mary Andres, associate professor of clinical education at the University of Southern California Rossier School of Education and licensed clinical psychologist, there is no ‘right’ number, even though we tend to compare ourselves with friends or co-workers who might brag about their sex lives.

The article quotes a 40-year study that surveyed more than 30,000 Americans that showed couples who have sex once a week are the happiest. But Andres says couples need to understand how often their partner desires sex. “Some people want to have sex every day, and they are,” she said. “Other people have other priorities, so sex isn’t on the top of their list, so they are having it less.”

One reason, she said, might be our addiction to our social channels. “A lot more people are connected to devices—if they are watching videos, TV in the bedroom, texting or updating Twitter feeds, it’s detrimental to their sex lives,” Andres said.

She suggests setting an appointment for sex, and then keep that appointment. Also, couples need to figure out what works for them to satisfy each other’s needs—and it doesn’t necessarily have to be intercourse.

Among the benefits of sex: It releases endorphins that make us feel good, and it clears the mind and can help you think clearly. And, of course, Pure Romance products can help you spice up your sex life to make it more interesting for you and your partner!

Want to learn more? Here’s the link to the article: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2017/02/09/how-often-should-you-have-sex-your-partner-sex-therapy-counseling/97545366/

Let’s Talk Sexual Health

What a terrific evening we had last week with the Patty Brisben Foundation and our launch of #SexualHealthMatters: A Conversation with the Patty Brisben Foundation! It was an informative evening of frank talk on issues affecting women’s sexual health. If you weren’t able to attend this time, mark your calendars for our next Conversation coming up on Tuesday, September 25th.

We find that conversation is the best way to open our feelings to our partners about our own sexual needs, but sometimes that conversation is difficult to have. According to a Mayo Clinic article, women are not alike when it comes to sex—we have different likes and dislikes, and our partners need to know that.

But how to bring that up? It’s not easy, but it’s an important conversation to have. The article suggests five points to get the conversation started, including:

  • Admit your discomfort. If you’re a little uneasy starting the conversation, say so!
  • Start talking. Once the words come out, it’s usually easier to bring up sensitive subjects.
  • Set a time limit. The article says 15 minutes is good for a start.
  • Talk regularly. Once you get into the habit, it’ll be easier to start the conversations.
  • Use a book or movie to illustrate your sexual health issues.

After you set up guidelines, some of the issues you might want to discuss are the time you devote to your relationship, routine sex versus trying something new, and your emotional intimacy, not just physical. If there are any health or hormonal changes your partner needs to know about, this is a good time to discuss that, as well.

Our conversation last week on #SexualHealthMatters really illuminated the need for all of us to talk more about our sexual health and needs. These tips from the Mayo Clinic can help you open up that conversation at home as well. If you want to read more from the Mayo Clinic, here’s the link:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/sexual-health/in-depth/womens-sexual-health/art-20047771

Save Your Skin

Ah, sunshine! The official start of summer is still a couple of weeks away but most of us already are well into summertime activities—the beach, the pool, anywhere we can soak up a few rays.

There is a meme going around social media that talks about the “old days” when we laid out in the sun with our baby oil and iodine concoction slathered all over and some lemon juice in our hair to get that sun-bleached look. Ah yes, I remember it well, but these days, we know better. Now, we know to protect our skin when we go outside.

The National Institutes of Health reminds us about the dangers of sun exposure, from premature wrinkling to the more serious forms of skin cancers. “Each year, more than 2 million people are treated for two types of skin cancer: Basal cell and squamous cell carcinoma,” the NIH reminds us. “These cancers are seen in both older and younger people, and they’re rarely life-threatening. Melanoma is a less common but more serious type of skin cancer that’s diagnosed in more than 68,000 Americans each year.”

In fact, did you realize that our skin is our body’s largest organ? It protects us, so the least we can do is protect it from the sun’s harmful rays even while we’re showing more of it off on these warm days! Put your sunscreen on early and often, wear a fabulous wide-brimmed hat and don’t forget your very-chic sunglasses to protect your eyes.

As for the rest of you, our Pure Romance Body Boost Firming Creamhelps smooth and tone your skin before and after a day at the beach while our Revive Skin Repair Cream keeps your skin healthy and moisturized, especially for the extremely dry areas.

And if you still want that sunny glow without the sun, remember our Coco Glow Tropical Sunless Tanner offers medium to dark coverage safely!

Want more tips on sun care? Here’s the article from the NIH: https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2014/07/sun-skin

It’s Travel Season!

School has just about wrapped up, or has wrapped up, for the season, the weather is warmer and it’s time for many people to hit the road or fly the friendly skies for a vacation. Whether it’s a long weekend or a two-week exotic stint, vacations in general are something most of us look forward to. And according to the U.S. Travel Association, there’s another benefit other than rest and relaxation—couples who travel together have healthier, happier relationships.

The U.S Travel survey looked at if, and to what extent, leisure travel strengthened relationships between romantic partners. The survey had three key findings:

  • Travel has long-term benefits for couples
  • Travel helps build and maintain relationships
  • Travel ignites romance and intimacy

The article says that the survey found that couples who travel together have a higher satisfaction level with their relationship, and relationships last longer among couples who do travel together. In addition, the article says that those surveyed thought that traveling together helped build new relationships because couples do new and interesting things together. And, of course, travel helps couples find the time to spend together so they can reconnect, be romantic and intimate.

If you really needed an excuse to plan a vacation, (and really, who needs an excuse?) the U.S. Travel Association gave us some great reasons to plan our next trip. And don’t forget to take Pure Romance along with you, to make that trip even more memorable! Happy vacation!

If you want to read more from the survey, here’s the full article: https://www.ustravel.org/sites/default/files/media_root/5.2015_Relationship_ExecSummary.pdf

 

ALL Relationships Are Royalty!

Did you get up bright and early last Saturday morning to watch the royal wedding? (Well, it wasn’t very bright at 4:30 a.m. when I was up!) Millions around the world took time out to watch Prince Harry, whom we have watched grow up, mourned with him in his sorrow and celebrated in his joy,  marry his American princess, Meghan Markle.

What fascinates us about relationships like this? Maybe it’s the relationship itself and how two people with vastly different backgrounds can meet and connect the way they seemingly do. Relationships are important for all of us, whether they are with a partner or with our friends.

An article by Harvard researchers indicates that meaningful relationships are important for our emotional, mental and physical health. “Good, close relationships appear to buffer us from the problems of getting old,” according to Dr. Robert Waldinger with Massachusetts General Hospital.

The article outlines a decades-old study of what made people happy as they aged. The findings include:

  • Social connections appear to be good for health
  • Loneliness appears to be toxic
  • Relationship quality matters “Living in conflict, such as in a high-conflict marriage, is bad for your health. Living in the midst of warm relationships is perhaps protective,” said Dr. Waldinger.
  • Good relationships seem to protect our brain. “Being in a securely attached relationship is protective in your 80s,” he said. “Those people’s memories stay sharper longer.”

As Pure Romance consultants, we’re in the relationship business. Sure, we make our parties fun and that’s part of getting together with your girlfriends to enjoy an evening out. But we want your relationship with your partner to be constructive, too. There’s scientific proof to show that it’s good for you, well into your golden years!

So to Meghan and Harry, we wish them a long, healthy relationship and a long, healthy life. And if you’d like to read more of the Harvard article, check it out here.