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Pure Romance Mantra

Dr. Krychman is a renowned doctor of sexual medicine, a board certified obstetrician and gynecologist, and a clinical sexual counselor and author. He has devoted his career to helping patients and their partners overcome sexual health challenges and experience a higher quality of physical intimacy. Dr. Krychman is also a specialist in survivorship medicine and provides life coaching and care plans to optimize the health and wellness of patients with chronic diseases or cancer. We were very fortunate to have him speak at our World Conference here in Cincinnati, Ohio, this past August. Please scroll down to read his full biography.

Below is a wonderful “mantra” he recently shared with me that helps keep you and our customers focused on the importance of fostering intimacy in our relationships, and as an acronym for PURE ROMANCE, it should be pretty easy to remember!


P          PLEASURE

Focus on sexual pleasure rather than performance

Take your time


Listen to your partner

Understand and accept your own sexual needs

R         ROMANCE

Sensual intimacy and romance can be rekindled – send love notes/text and fall in love all over again


Novelty is sexy

Try something new – new sexual location, position or time of the day to be intimate


R         RELAX

Daily stress is a sexual buzz kill

Sex need not be a quick event – take your time


Sexual activity is not only intercourse – enjoy sensual foreplay, oral pleasure and explore all your erogenous zones


Staying focused and concentrating on your own sexual response can help improve it.

Try yoga, mindfulness or meditation


Lubricants, vibrators, c-rings, feathers and sexual games can enhance and excite

N         NAUGHTY and NICE

Vary sexual behavior, positions and locations – sex should be hot, erotic and sensual

C         CHECK UP   

Be sure to see your health care professional. Sexuality is both medical and psychological.  Medical cause of sexual problems due to hormonal imbalance, medical illness, and medications can impact the sexual response and can be treated by a sexual medicine specialist

E          EQUALITY

Fight for equality! 26 medications (for men) to 0 (for women)! It’s time to even the score for  sexual medicines for women, access to care and the right for sexual pleasure

About Dr. Krychman


Michael L. Krychman, MDCM, is the Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine located in Newport Beach California.  He is the former Co Director of The Sexual Medicine and Rehabilitation Program at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer. He also is a clinical sexologist and has completed his Masters in Public Health and Human Sexuality.  Dr Krychman has a degree in Erotology, Sexual Education and Forensic Sexology.  Dr Krychman is also an AASECT certified sexual counselor. He is on faculty at University of Southern California.  He is an Associate Clinical Professor at the University of California Irvine, Division of Gynecological Oncology and the Medical Director of Ann’s Clinic, a high-risk program for Breast and Ovarian Cancer Survivors.

His special interests include menopausal health, hormone therapy, sexual pain disorders, and loss of libido, chronic medical illness and its impact on female sexual function as well as breast cancer sexuality. He is a well-known speaker who is featured locally, nationally and internationally.  He has published many articles in peer-reviewed journals and has been featured in many scientific journals and lay magazines.  Dr Krychman is an active reviewer for the Journal of Sexual Medicine. He was the Scientific Chairman for the 2010 International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health annual educational meeting. He is an active member in good standing in NCBC, NAMS, ISSM, ESSM, ISSWSH and AASECT. He has recently been appointed to the Standard Committee for ISSM and has been a guest professor at the ESSM Sexual Medicine Summer School in Oxford, England.   He is a member of the North American Menopause Foundation Board of Directors.  He is the creator of the recent WISH Initiative  (Women’ Initiative on Sexual Health: and the 2013 recipient of the WISH Outstanding Achievement award given by the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health.  He is also on the professional advisory board for the Patty Brisben Foundation and  He is writing a monthly column for entitled SEX Matters.

Dr. Krychman’s has published 6 books including, 100 Questions & Answers for Women Living with Cancer: A Practical Guide to Female Cancer Survivorship has been recently published, 100 Questions and Answers about Women’s Sexual Wellness and Vitality and Breast cancer Sexuality, Sensuality and Intimacy. He has been featured on the Today show and in the New York Times and US News and World Report World Report, The Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Health Magazine and many others.


“What Do You Do?”


When we meet someone, one of the first questions people often ask is, “So, what do you do?” As Pure Romance Consultants who are just starting in the business, this can sometimes be a daunting question.  Why? Because we live in a society that still is learning it’s okay to talk openly about sexuality and intimate topics, but our Consultants are the ambassadors blazing a path of improvement in this arena.

When I first started in this business, I’ll never forget when my firstborn son came to me with this very question. High school kids were bullying him at the bus stop when they heard about one of my interviews at a local radio station. They told him, “We know what your mom does!” and like many bullies to this day, they were relentless and ruthless. He came home in tears and told me he knew what I did for a living.

This is when I sat him down for an important talk.  I explained to him that while he and I always didn’t get along, we always made up. However, when his father and I had argued in the past, we weren’t able to “make up.” You, see, I never wanted anyone else’s children to go through that, or their parents for that matter. He began to understand that I was working to help teach moms and parents to communicate better than I had with his father, and maintain important aspects of their relationship that helped them to stay together for life.

I also told him, “You know those kids picking on you at the bus stop? Their moms have been to my parties.”

That was the end of that.

It isn’t easy working in a business that addresses issues around sexuality; that’s why our Consultants are so tough. They are strong, empowered and passionate women who are able to stand tall when certain people don’t understand or question what we do.

When a couple makes a commitment to be together for life, it’s not always easy. Life and relationships are like a changing heartbeat – there’s a beat that speeds up and slows down and we have to work to keep up with it.  There are not many places for couples to go to get answers and be mentored besides doctors and therapists.

If you are a Pure Romance Consultant reading this, below are just a couple pointers on how to show your pride when you tell a new acquaintance what you do.

  • Help them understand that the best gift we can give our children is giving them the opportunity to see their parents happy.
  • Understand there’s a time and a place; you don’t sit down with a young child the first day you get your Pure Romance Kit. You’ll know when they are becoming curious and can truly grasp what we are actually doing for couples and women everywhere.
  • Any one who has been in a long-term relationship knows that they sometimes get put on the back burner. Give examples that relate to their lives and real-life issues in intimacy. We know it’s not just about product. It’s our job to help them understand that.
  • Know your 30-Second Commercial. After hiring one of our new staff members, her father asked her about her new job. She said, “I’ve accepted a position with a successful multi-million dollar international company that specializes in relationship enhancement products.”
  • No matter what you do for a living, you should love it and be proud of it – or else it’s not worth doing!



Best Birthday Ever

I wanted to take a moment and thank all of you who wished me a Happy Birthday during World Conference this past month; many of you brought me thoughtful gifts such as hand-knit scarves, monogrammed towels, flowers and more! I love having my birthday fall during World Conference because I get to spend it with four thousand of my favorite women, my family, and staff! I really felt I was surrounded with people who genuinely loved and cared about me.


This year’s event was by far my favorite – I thought that it wouldn’t be possible to outdo the 20th Anniversary last year, but we did it, and it wouldn’t have been possible without all of the Pure Romance Consultants who flew in to our Cincinnati headquarters from all over the world. A big highlight was being able to meet so many of the new faces from the Slumber Parties acquisition and to hear them ask the seasoned Pure Romance Consultants, “Is this for real?” and “Is it always this spectacular?” and be met with a resounding, “Yes!”

We’ve always strived to be a company that listens to its Consultants and puts them first. My goal has always been to live up to this mission and to hear so many women who recently have come on board tell me how thankful they were and how they’d never had an experience like this in their life was truly the best birthday present I could have ever asked for this year.


For those of you reading this wondering if I actually took down time afterward, I did decide to take a few days to decompress with close family and friends. We bid on an auction item during the Pro-Scan Pink Ribbon Luncheon and won tickets to the Joan Rivers Fashion Police television show taping and Chelsea Lately in Los Angeles. We were so proud to bring gift boxes with our products to the lively hosts because I truly believe they are superior to everything else out there.

It’s so important to take the time to turn your phone off once in a while and connect with those closest to you, embracing the moment. I turned it on here and there for my latest passion – Instagram – so I could take my followers along on the journey. My daughter, Lauren, and my other daughter-in-law, Rachel, couldn’t make the trip so it was a great way for them to tag along through photos.


We stayed at a gorgeous hotel called the Montage where they brought in fresh flowers every day, and dined at the world-famous restaurant The Ivy. Some other fun birthday treats included Spago Beverly Hills by Wolfgang Puck and Sur where we ran into Lisa Vanderpump and Jax Taylor from “Vanderpump Rules.” Those of you who know me well know that I love to keep my eye on fashion, and it was quite a treat to see a man sitting at breakfast in Beverly Hills sipping on his coffee with red-soled Christian Louboutins (not something you see every day!) I even chatted with a kind stranger who told me he found love in Austria and I should look for romance in New Zealand. Coincidentally, we are already opening New Zealand and have Consultants there ready to help couples find their own romance!

A couple of the women with me on this trip were young moms of children (between the ages of two and 10). I listened to them talk about worries in being away from their kids. This made me think about our own Pure Romance Consultants who left their families to come to World Conference and the advice I give to both is the same. Trips like these are time to give back to yourself. To laugh and giggle. To give yourself some fun. Were there nights on my birthday trip where I maybe had one glass of wine more than I should? Yes! When I indulged in a dessert I’d never eat back home. Yes! Flirted with a handsome man? Yes! When I returned to work I hit the ground running even more re-energized and passionate than before. In many ways, our Consultants who traveled here for World Conference also had a girls’ getaway, giving back to themselves, making new friends and letting go for a few days. Taking a girls’ weekend shouldn’t be left to just a birthday celebration, it’s something I recommend that every woman should do.

Beat-the-Heat Summer Hairstyles


Guest blog by Sue Beck (collaboration with Stephen Gunn): Sue Beck-Currie is the owner and Creative Director of Salon Beck located in Downtown Cincinnati, as well as a Pure Romance Professionista Stylist. Education is and has been Sue’s driving passion; she has worked to attain the knowledge and expertise in the art of hairdressing, not only for her growth, but most importantly to share with others. She is proud to be a national educator with John Paul Mitchell Systems, and enjoys sharing her skills and being a part of the JPMS education team. Sue has studied extensively at Vidal Sassoon – Santa Monica, with Anthony Mascula, Toni & Guy – London & Dallas, Scott Cole & Linda Yodice – Colorcutting USA, John Louis David – Paris, and the famous Garren of NY. She has provided editorial for Mademoiselle, Good Housekeeping, and several other periodicals under John Casablanca’s “Look of the Year.” Sue has also been responsible for education in technical skills, motivation and goal setting for a multi salon group. Her love of the beauty industry continues to thrive and grow in her daily life.

Note from Patty’s Desk: For today’s blog, I asked Pure Romance Professionista Stylist, Sue Beck-Currie to give you some amazing hair tips to beat the heat – August is the muggiest of months in my hometown so no better time than now to post! Recreate your own summer hairstyle and you could WIN A $150 SPAFINDER GIFT CARD! Email us a picture of your new style to and Sue will pick her favorite. You must be a subscriber to my blog to win. If you’re the lucky winner, we want to see photos of how you pampered yourself – whether it was a new hairstyle, a relaxing massage or manicure!

Summer has been mild so far here in Cincinnati, but any stylist can tell you that any summer’s heat and humidity can make it a tough time of year for long lasting beautiful hair. While we all would love to let our tresses loose, with a little know-how , sometimes you are better off pulling your hair up: a potentially head-turning, far more comfortable, and long -lasting option for long hair that can be fun instead of frustrating. Luckily, the trends of 2014 lend themselves well to easy upstyles. Three dimensional hair color like balayaged ombré, subtle highlights, and block color techniques provide definition to your shape and the appearance of shine to any style. Today’s many popular varieties of fringe, whether straight or side-swept, strong or soft, elevate a look by lending a polish and shape around the face.

A beautiful upstyle comes together easily with the right tools, ‘liquid tools’ and hot tools, and a little preparatory work. You ‘tease’ a nerd, but you ‘ruche’ your hair. Paul Mitchell’s Daily Boost or Purology’s Root Lift with or without a dry shampoo like Paul Mitchell’s Dry Wash in combination with light ruching through the crown, will provide volume, control, and texture to the foundation of even a second day look. If you didn’t use a styling product before blowdrying yesterday, to make the length of your look manageable, you’ll need to add to your dry hair a creamy gel or mousse (whether it is soft like Paul Mitchell’s Fast Form or strong and juicy like Purology’s Silk Bodifier); never go for anything too sticky or stiff. One pump of Paul Mitchell’s Styling Treatment Oil or Gloss Drops will add shine while controlling flyaways. Too heavy? Are you more comfortable letting your hairspray tackle flyaways once you’re finished? We like Paul Mitchell’s Hold Me Tight because its dry “layerable” touch as a working spray and finishing spray. All of these styles start with softly curled or round brushed hair- or if you are so lucky, your own natural curls.

For our first look let’s mix something simple like a classic pony with the cutting edge of Fendi’s fall runway. For an extra lift in the style, try placing the pony tail high up at the crown of your head; it’s up to you!

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  1. Section hair into four sections. Secure back section into a low, sleek ponytail. Secure with elastic.
  2. Divide Mohawk section into two sections with a slight diagonal parting from front center to back-center-right.
  3. Take the right side section, keeping it smooth and sleek, back toward the ponytail base. Wrap the ends of section around the elastic and secure underneath with a bobby pin. Repeat with the left side section.
  4. Secure remaining ends by tucking them underneath the ponytail, and securing them under the base with bobby pins.

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Our second look is on trend with braids inspired by our favorite new mom: Princess Kate!

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  1. Leaving a section loose on either side of your face, and gather the rest of your hair back into a ponytail. Pull gently at the top of your ponytail so it’s not too tight.
  2. Braid half of the hair on the left hand side, and wrap it over your ponytail. Repeat with the right hand side.
  3. Braid the lower section of hair on the left hand side and wrap over your ponytail. Pin in place with a bobby pin underneath your ponytail. Repeat on the right hand side. Important: Stretch out your braids! Pull at the sides to make your hair look thicker and fuller.
  4. Loosely braid your ponytail and roll it under to form a bun. Pin in place with bobby pins.

Our last look goes out to our curly girls. You know better than anyone how unpredictable curls can be. So on the days that somehow a pump of Paul Mitchell’s Twirl Around and a diffuser just doesn’t do the trick, turn to this quick style.

It really is as easy as Twist & Pin!

Start by taking a one-inch section of hair near your left temple and twist it around your finger. Twist it around into a mini bun at the back of your head and pin in place with a bobby pin.

Repeat with a section from the right side, and twist and pin in place. It helps to twist with one finger, and then use your other index finger to hold the twist down so you can make the bun.

Remember to take even sections to keep the twists consistent. You can use bobby pins to pin the twists to each other for more stability.


Infertility: What You Need to Know


Guest Blog by Michael A. Thomas, M.D., Professor (Fellowship and Section Director, Division of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility – University of Cincinnati Academic Health Center)

Note from Patty’s desk: I’ve worked with Dr. Michael Thomas on behalf of the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health for almost a decade. He is a renowned fertility specialist and someone I personally look up to and admire. The Patty Brisben Foundation would not be where it is today without the genuine support of experts like Dr. Thomas. Pure Romance Consultants reading this blog should share in my pride that we are truly surrounding ourselves with nothing but the best, and also use this valuable information to challenge your health care professionals with questions and offer additional resources to your customers in the ordering room and beyond.

My name is Dr. Michael Thomas and I am a Professor at the University of Cincinnati Medical Center, as well as a fertility specialist. Though 75% of my day is spent helping couples get pregnant, the rest of my day is spent researching various topics including sexual dysfunction, contraception, menopause, pelvic pain, and the effect of environmental toxins on reproduction.

20-25% of couples have problems getting pregnant.  Usually a doctor will tell a patient to wait for one year to get try to get pregnant if the female partner is less than 35 years old and has normal cycles (less than 35 days apart). Women who are older than 35, have longer cycles or have a known male partner with sperm issues, should see a doctor much sooner.

Experts generally divide infertility problems among patients to:

  • Those that are caused by the male or absence of a male (40%)
  • Those associated with problems with the female partner (40%)
  • Problems related to the male and female (10%)
  • No problems found in the male or female (10%)

Male problems are associated with the sperm. A semen analysis is an easy way to find out if the male partner has a problem with the sperm count, movement or shape. One or all of the problems can prevent fertilization of an egg. Examples which can cause a problem include something that the male has coming in contact with (toxic exposure), varicose veins around the testicles (varicocele), hormonal, genetic, or, sometimes, no reason for a sperm problem may  be found.

Common female problems that may cause infertility include disorders of ovulation (difficulty in releasing an egg), blockage of the fallopian tubes, abnormalities of the uterus (womb), pelvic adhesions, or issues with the cervix (mouth of the womb) or vagina.

One of the most common disorders of ovulation that affects up to 15% of women is polycystic ovary syndrome or PCOS. PCOS is associated with having two of the following three symptoms:

1.  Menses for more than 35 days

2.  An increase in hair growth above the lip or under the chin

3.  Polycystic appearing ovaries on ultrasound

Unlike some mistruths about PCOS that have been perpetuated, women with this condition can be of any weight and problems with PCOS usually present themselves after they start their menses as a teenager. Most of these women have to use medications in order to get pregnant. These hormonal preparations  will allow her body to produce an egg in a more predictable way so that intercourse can be timed to increase the chance that an egg can be fertilized and implant in the uterus.

Another common problem that can cause infertility is blocked tubes.  Previous surgery or a prior pelvic infection can predispose a woman to have both of her tubes blocked. If a blockage occurs, the egg and sperm can’t meet to allow an embryo to form. Specialized testing by your gynecologist or a fertility specialist needs to be performed to check if the tubes are open or closed. This test, called a hysterosalpingogram (or HSG), should be offered to anyone experiencing an infertility problem.

Doctors should also pay special attention to couples that go through infertility workups.  Because the precise timing of intercourse to conceive can sometimes become more “pro-creational than recreational,” the fun of a normal sex life can lose its spark; therefore, the lines of communication must always remain open in couples who face fertility challenges. During this time, a frank and open discussion with each other or with a health professional is very important.

Through a grant totaling $50K from the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health, the University of Cincinnati has investigated the effect that infertility can have on a couple’s sex life. We have also researched the effect of birth control pills on decreasing a woman’s sex drive, how a new diagnosis of cancer can affect libido, and how women with vaginal pain can get relief with either the use of medicines that block certain nerves or physical therapy. These projects, and many others from leading academic institutions from around the country, have been funded by the Foundation.

In addition, I am very proud of the following UC Health video.

For more information on infertility, or to contact me for advice, please visit