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My Perfect Man: Four Qualities I Look For


How does someone catch your eye when you walk into a crowded room? For me, there are a lot of attributes that make someone intriguing, but below are some top characteristics that always spark my interest…


For years, I have loved George Clooney. Why? Because as a Tri-State native, he’s never forgotten his roots. He’s won an Oscar and still worked to bring films like Ides of March to Cincinnati to showcase his city. I also love that despite becoming a larger-than-life star, his parents have always remained important to him and he continues to come back and spend time with them to this day. Even now, he’s surprised us all by breaking his eternal bachelor reputation by popping the question to a woman who is a successful attorney, fluent in Arabic, French and English, and clearly has a mind of her own. He set a new bar with brains leading beauty in Hollywood.


There’s a reason Good Morning America is after Co-Host Michael Strahan of Live! With Kelly and Michael (with Kelly Ripa): not only is he an amazing athlete with a very high IQ, his lovable personality is highly contagious. It doesn’t matter if he’s talking sports or celebrity news – he knows how to adapt. This man is versatile – the kind of person you could throw into any social setting without a problem. And as crazy as my life can get, you know that’s a must!


Someone wise once told me that your life partner should have a great sense of humor. There’s nothing more valuable than being able to laugh with one another, especially when times are difficult. Vince Vaughn is a good example of someone who can make me laugh – even during very tense scenes like those in the movie The Break-Up. While we’re on the subject of his role in that movie, he shows he can hold up his side of argument with no problem. I like a man who can keep me on my toes and go head to head with me on any issue.


It wouldn’t be fun if I didn’t mention a little “eye candy,” right? Actor Dermot Mulroney, is the epitome of charisma and sex appeal in The Wedding Date. When a man is easy on the eyes and also has the certain “something” simmering below the surface, that’s a recipe for the kind of seduction that can go a VERY long way.

What do you look for in a man or a woman? What are your “deal-breakers?” Please share your comments here!




Seven Essential Summer Pieces

Guest Blog by Emily Wall, Pure Romance Professionista StylistPattyBlogEmilyWall_0413






When it comes to dressing for the season, we all have our favorite times of the year. Many of my friends and clients love their sweaters, signature winter coats, and sassy boots. But I have to admit that all of that layering wears me out. The dark colors tend to put me to sleep and the wooly fabrics literally drive me nuts. I live for summer style. I jumped at the opportunity to share my love of summer fashion on Patty’s blog.

I identify with summer’s laid back glamour; in fact, before I lived in the “real world,” I envisioned myself in all white, with big sunglasses and fabulous gold jewelry on some beautiful beach year-round. Needless to say, back here on earth things are a little different. Instead of beachside, my summer days are spent at work, maybe checking out a weekend festival, grilling out with friends and family on Sundays, having dinner out with my boyfriend and attending a few networking social functions where I attempt to look fabulous as my face melts off in the humidity. Sound familiar?!

Rather than writing one post summing up all of my strong feelings and emotions about summer fashion, I’m going to write two additional guest blogs this summer. You have enough on your plate with kids, work, school, spouses, the house and everything else. Let’s see if I can help you navigate your summer style so you can walk out the door feeling confident and put together all season!

Let’s talk about essentials. Think about your lifestyle, what kinds of things do you face day-to-day and what pieces will help you feel good about yourself and your style during each of those events. Sure, everyone’s list will be a little different, but I want you to think about defining your seven essential summer pieces and make sure you’re ready for whatever summer may bring. I’ve come up with a list of my own personal favorites and made a case for why each should end up on your essential list this summer!


1. This is the only item I am listing in order of importance: THE PERFECT TEE. If you have not found your perfect tee yet, I demand you put it on the list. The perfect tee isn’t just a T-shirt. The perfect tee is flattering, comfortable, and classy and fits you just so that its simplicity borders on sexy. It’s the tee that makes all of your other T-shirts jealous. This is not your dirty lounge around the house tee. This tee is white or black and you love it so much you wish you had two. You wear it with your favorite jeans, your shorts, maybe a maxi skirt. You accessorize it with bold jewelry or a scarf and know just how to dress it up when needed. Bottom line – Invest in a really good quality tee that you love and makes you feel confident.

2. Next up: MAXI DRESS. I can’t let them go. Not now, not ever. As every summer approaches I beg the fashion gods to continue to make them acceptable once again. I will be completely honest here; through my work I have learned that most husbands and boyfriends actually hate them…what do they know? Here’s why I love the maxi-dress so much: VERSATILITY. They are like wonders sent from above! There is a flattering style for every body type and they can easily be dressed up with wedges and statement jewelry on date night and played down with flat sandals and a lightweight scarf for running errands. This is what you grab when you want to feel like you are in your pajamas but might run in to Brad Pitt… Okay, maybe you’ll run into a client, co-worker, or another parent from your kid’s school. Want to feel chic at a networking event in the afternoon? Maxi-dress. Invited to a rustic-themed wedding? Maxi-dress.

3. CARDIGAN or LIGHTWEIGHT JACKET. Say what?! Blame the air conditioning. Do not get stuck feeling awkward and incredibly uncomfortable in a work meeting because the air conditioning is blaring down on you. For this reason it is vital to have your defensive cardigan or other lightweight layer readily available. Tap into your own style and find out what works best. Some of you are not sweet enough for cardigans; I know I am not. Try an unstructured jacket in a breathable material instead. Keep the season’s bright colors in mind. Push yourself to try something other than black. Maybe even something in a print?!

4. SOMETHING FLORAL. Okay, or how about something printed? I am not talking about the Sunday school dress that irks the 6-year-old girl inside of you. I’m talking about something grown-up because no matter what your age every woman should have one feminine or unique piece that makes them stand out in a crowd. Often florals and other prints do just that. Even a printed or floral jacket can take your basic black dress to another level for that big summer event. That same jacket will look AMAZING with your perfect tee and jeans. Maybe it’s a floral dress that stands strong in your closet as your go-to dress for summer weddings, baby showers or a special night out with your spouse. Don’t rule out printed pants either! A fun pant in a bright floral pattern makes for such an easy summer look! Pair the pant with your perfect tee and some great shoes: tres chic! A printed pant can be the perfect floral or patterned touch. Click here for some examples.

5. I used to say I was not responsible enough for SOMETHING WHITE, but I have come to realize just how essential it can be to building a versatile summer wardrobe. Let’s make a deal. If you do not want something white, you will try something very light, possibly in a pastel? Take it into consideration because it makes things quite easy, I promise! Invited to dinner with your trendiest of girlfriends? Pull out your white dress and slide right in with their summer style. Tired of dressing up your blue jeans for date night? Swap them for a white pair and pair them with a dressy top and wedges or nude heels for a great new look. Professional clothes make you feel like you are trapped in the fall? Try a white blazer!

6. FLAT LEATHER SANDAL. When I say flat leather sandal I do not mean a flip-flop. I am talking something with some structure, design and maybe even an embellishment or five. Something on the dressier side. I think most of us tend to be moving around a bit more in summer, walking outdoors or attending parties outside. Sometimes heels just aren’t necessary! Stock a great looking flat leather sandal you can pair with your maxi-dress or white jeans for nice clean and put-together look. Just don’t forget to keep up your pedicure!

7. BOLD SUNGLASSES. When in doubt, complete your summer look with a signature pair of sunglasses – a la Audrey Hepburn. Don’t be fooled into thinking you have to blow your budget on a designer pair any old pair from Target or a thrift shop will do! I used to collect them in various styles and colors until I realized all I needed was one really great pair that made me feel like I could end up on the cover of US Weekly magazine at any moment. I may have went a little too far. Regardless, everyone needs a pair of killer “sunnies” that make people turn their heads and think “Who’s that girl”?!?! Oh, and of course they protect your eyes from that beautiful sunshine!

HONORABLE MENTIONS (I had a really hard time picking just seven):

T-shirt dress – Such a great piece to throw on when you need to run errands, watch the kids soccer game or wear with wedges for a neighborhood picnic!

Hat – Protect your skin, hide a bad hair day AND look fashionable doing it?! Yes, please!

Convertible strapless bra – For those strapless and one shoulder style top and dresses that just scream summer.

Tote bag – Mostly because I am a sucker for handbags and love the easy summer style and versatility of a great tote.

Need some Pinspiration? Check out our Pinterest board for examples of these hot summer tips.



Patty’s Mix Tape


PattyMixedTape_0513Pure Romance Consultants, what songs get you motivated and pumped up on the way to your parties? I’d love to know! When I’m on the road, I love listening to special playlists on my iPod with a mix of “throwbacks” to my new favorites today. I’m kicking off my list with one of the best and most upbeat songs of 2014! Enjoy!!

Pharell – Happy

Billy Idol – Rebel Yell

Neil Young – Heart of Gold

The Beatles – Let it Be

Patsy Cline – Crazy

Lionel Ritchie – All Night Long

Soft Cell – Tainted Love

Chris Issak– Wicked Game

Snow Patrol – Chasing Cars

Michael Jackson and Justin Timberlake – Love Never Felt So Good

Nico & Vinz –  Am I wrong

Elvis - I Can’t Help Falling in Love with You (I also love the cover by Christina Grimmie of The Voice)

A Great Big World featuring Christina Aguilera – Say Something

George Strait – I cross my Heart

Webbie featuring Lil’ Boosie and Lil Phat – Independent

Beyonce – Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)


Today’s To-Do List: Sex

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How many of you have met someone and couldn’t keep your hands off one another, then one morning you wake up and all you can think about is your laundry list of To-Dos, with sex at the bottom of the list. Well, guess what? You’ll always have To-Dos and it’s up to you to put sex where it belongs on that list.

After almost three decades of working with couples, I’ve seen how lack of effort when it comes to intimacy can affect relationships. A study spotlighted this trend and showed that sexual intimacy is the link that keeps partners positive about their marriages in the face of adversity, and a lack of sex makes things worse.

We don’t plan to lose that “honeymoon phase,” but we just get comfortable. We gravitate in different directions…he’s in the recliner with the remote watching the game, and she’s putting the kids to bed, packing lunches, doing laundry – the two reunite in the bedroom and think Should we do it? And then say, “We’ll do it tomorrow.”

This reminds me of a an episode of What Not to Wear which featured a woman who admitted she normally wears a frumpy T-shirt, “mom jeans” and hiking sandals on date- night with her husband. When the hosts asked if she ever put something on that made her feel sexy, she said once a year on their anniversary. She then went on to say, “We’ve been married 11 years, we have kids that take up most of our attention; the ‘wow’ factor just goes out the window.”

While many of us can relate, it doesn’t have to be this way. Just like we have to fight excuses like I’ll start exercising tomorrow, we have to commit every day to making an effort when it comes to our relationships and sexual exploration. Some mistakenly think that marital sex is doomed to get boring. For example, Country Singer Blake Shelton joked while hosting the CMA Awards: “I thought ‘Same Sex Marriage’ referred to the fact that you have the same sex every day” (his wife was looking on in the front row – and let me tell you, she didn’t look too pleased!).

It’s like when a new trainer tells you to start eating healthy and all you eat is chicken and salad for two weeks straight. We don’t want to think creatively about all of the options out there for healthy meals, because we look at it as work. But once we start trying new recipes, we’re often very surprised! The same goes for our sex lives! Of course it’s easier to just go through a drive through, but that’s just plain lazy and if there’s one thing we shouldn’t be when it comes to our intimate lives, it’s lazy – no matter how in love or committed we are.

Ask yourself, are you really seeking out your happiness by placing intimacy on the back burner? You may not even realize that you are compromising your health, your relationship and connection with this other person – and I truly believe that you connect better when you’re physical with one another. Of course, there are those who are suffering from mental or physical obstacles to intimacy and in that case, it’s important that they consult with their physician for advice and council. Regardless of what your particular situation might be, the bottom line is that the first step is putting attention on what’s important to you.


What is a Goddess?


I came across this definition of a Goddess (below) on social media and had to share. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: women always try to take on so much – we try to juggle a million things for so many around us; we never take the time to stop and appreciate how beautiful and amazing we ALL are.  Take a moment to read and remind yourself today, and every day, that you are truly a Goddess…

A woman who is in the process of learning to know, accept and love herself on all levels, Mind, Body and Spirit. A woman who, because she focuses on personal growth and self awareness, experiences a life increasingly filled with peace, love, joy, passion and fun. A woman that understands that she has unlimited capacity to make her life anything she wants. A woman who is inspired to give to those around her because of her sense of gratitude and abundance.