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The Birds and the Bees

“In the spring a young man’s fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love.” Those, the words from the famous poet, Alfred Lord Tennyson. But now there is scientific evidence that there is something to that adage about a man’s, and woman’s, libido kicking into high gear this time of year.

According to an article in Women’s Health Magazine, springtime sex can be, well, rather sexy. Some of the reasons are pretty obvious: Milder weather means we can finally chuck those sweaters and overcoats and show a little skin (time to use some Pure Romance Body Boost!).

Also, we’re now four months into the new year and (hopefully) have had some nice weather to go out and exercise. The holidays, and the big dinners, are behind us, and with any luck, so are the extra pounds that came with the celebrations.

Now that it’s Daylight Savings Time (again, for most of us), we have longer evenings to sit on the porch or on the deck, have a nice relaxing drink or dinner with our loved ones, and reconnect after a long day. Let’s face it, when it gets dark at 5 p.m. all you want to do is go home and pull the covers over your head. Spring just gives us those extra moments to enjoy our relationships.

And remember, you want to look sun kissed, even if you can’t get out during the day to soak up some Vitamin D, so get your glow on with some Coco Glow Tropical Sunless Tanner. You’ll look as good as you feel, and you’ll feel terrific as you reconnect with your partner on these warmer days.

Need even more reasons as to why Springtime is the sexiest time of year? Read the full article article here.

Stoking the Fire

There’s nothing like a nice, warm fire, whether it’s in the fireplace or on the beach. It just makes you feel cozy and comfortable, right? Well, we want to feel that way in our relationships, too, so sometimes you have to metaphorically stoke the fire we share with our partners. But how to do that?

A recent New York Times article by Dr. Jen Gunter tackles the issue of having a sexless relationship or sexless marriage (the definition of “sexless” being no sex 10 or fewer times a year). One study by the General Social Survey shows that approximately 15% of married couples are sexless. Some couples weren’t much interested in sex to begin with: For others, a particular event, like an affair or childbirth, slowed the frequency of sex.

No surprise, the survey showed that happy couples have more sex, and those in sexless marriages were more likely to consider divorce. Women often are stereotyped as the one in a relationship not wanting intimacy (“not tonight, honey, I have a headache”). But what if it’s the man?

Dr. Gunter’s article tackles the question about the lack of sexual desire by the male partner, and used her own experiences as examples. “Looking back on my relationship,” she said, “the frequency of sex dropped off quickly. I told myself it would get better because there were other positives.

“I started to circuitously ask friends if they ever felt similarly rejected. The answer was, ‘Not really.’ My experience led me to listen differently to women speaking about their sex lives with men.” Short of a medical or psychological problem that requires professional counseling, Dr. Gunter suggests trying to fan those flames, “…because the more you have sex, the more you may want to have it, if you’re doing it right and it feels good.”

At Pure Romance, we are in the business of enhancing relationships, and Dr. Gunter’s article reminds us that no matter what the reason, intimacy between partners is an important component. “If you love the person you’re with,” she said, “then the sooner you speak up, the better. Waiting until months or even years have passed can weaponize the bedroom.”

Want to read more? Visit https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/10/style/sexless-relationships-men-low-libido.html for the entire article.

Honoring the Pioneers

As we close out March as Women’s History Month, we should give a nod to one of the history-making female pioneers of sex research. While you may have heard of Virginia Johnson of Masters and Johnson fame, you may not be as familiar with Dr. Beverly Whipple, but her research is just as groundbreaking, for she is the researcher who helped de-mystify the area of a woman’s body now known as the G-Spot.

Dr. Whipple started her medical career as a nurse, but she eventually got into research about women’s sexuality. The research led her to a report by scientist Ernst Gräfenberg (hence the ‘g-spot’ name) that some 400 women studied, reported a sensitive area at the top of their vaginas during sex. That study led to the 1982 book, “The G-Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality,” written by Dr. Whipple, Alice Kahn Ladas and John D. Perry.

Her work as a sex educator led to several other books and in 2006 she was named one of the world’s 50 most influential scientists by New Scientist magazine. In a recent article in the British publication The Independent, Dr. Whipple, now professor emerita at Rutgers University, talked about what her research has meant to women’s sexuality. “I got 5,000 letters from women thanking me for helping them feel normal,” she said in response to the first book’s publication.

“The whole point is to help women to realize that what they find pleasurable, sensually and sexually is what they should enjoy and not feel that they have to fit into one model of only one way to respond,” she continued.” We have to give women the permission to enjoy what they enjoy. It is all very individual and it’s all normal.”

At Pure Romance we give every woman permission to be themselves and to be free to enjoy what they like in a relationship. While we think that women make history every day, this designated Women’s History Month celebrates Dr. Beverly Whipple for truly making history as one of the pioneers of sex research.

Want to read the entire article? Read it here.

Love Can Hurt … and for Many Women, So Can Sex.

Anyone who’s had a broken heart knows that love can hurt. But many women complain that sex can, as well. Many other women don’t say a thing even if it does hurt, because they don’t know what to say, may be embarrassed or don’t know whom to tell.

In an article in Sunday’s New York Times, Dr. Jen Gunter, an ob/gyn, writes that women often jump to the conclusion that if sex hurts, it must be their fault. Instead, it might be a medical condition known as dyspareunia, a fancy word describing pain during sex due to medical or psychological causes.

Although you may feel you’re the only person in the world for whom sex is painful, Dr. Gunter says that almost 75 percent of women have experienced it. Many have the pain come and go, but up to 45 percent of menopausal women and 60 percent of cancer survivors report pain.

It can be caused by muscle spasms, nerve pain, skin conditions, low estrogen or endometriosis. It can be triggered by a woman’s fear of pain—if sex is painful and you’re going to have sex, Dr. Gunter says, your body tenses up in anticipation and, you guessed it, sex is painful.

So what to do? One of the first steps, Dr. Gunter says, should be finding a good doctor. Too often, women tell a doctor about their pain but never get a diagnosis or treatment. “In addition to a doctor and physical therapist,” Dr. Gunter says, “a sex therapist and psychologist may be helpful.” It may take a few appointments, but finding the right doctor who will give you a proper diagnosis is a big step in solving the issue.

Our Consultants often have the chance to listen to women who complain about pain during sex. Guiding them to a health care professional who can help them live pain-free can help them feel better about themselves, their partner and about sex. And who doesn’t want to feel better about sex?

Want to read more of Dr. Gunter’s article? Here’s the link: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/31/style/sex-pain-causes-solutions.html.

What Were You Doing at 25?

Take a look back and think about what you were doing when you were 25 years old. Maybe you were just getting out of college and starting a new job. Perhaps you had been married for a few years and starting your family. Or maybe it was a combination of the two.

Whether it was a long time ago or just yesterday, most of us had big plans, hopes and dreams at 25 years old. You feel as if the entire world is at your fingertips and you can accomplish anything.

Well, that’s the way we feel at Pure Romance today. Because this year, 2018, is our 25th doing businesses with our amazing Consultants across the globe. It’s a good time to reflect on what we’ve accomplished in 25 years, and to look ahead.

Just like many of you, 25 years ago I had dreams of providing for my family while being able to empower, educate, and entertain women. From those dreams Pure Romance was born and I was able to fulfil my dream of caring for my kids, setting my own hours and helping other women make their own dreams come true.

And now, here we are 25 years later and almost 30,000 women across the world are able to own and operate their own business, provide for their families and live life by design. That’s quite a lot to celebrate and we plan on celebrating quite a lot during this 25th anniversary year!

You’ll hear more details about our 25th anniversary plans as the year goes on and especially at our World Conference. For now, join us as we begin our 25th year of Pure Romance. Hey, we feel we’re just getting started! Be part of a celebration 25 years in the making!