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Good Vibrations

Vibrators have evolved from basic to high tech, from back rooms to your favorite Pure Romance Consultant. Gone (thankfully) are the days when women had to sneak into sometimes-sketchy shops to purchase vibrators to enhance their relationships.

But is there such a thing as too much of a good thing? Jada Pinkett Smith famously said last year that, when she was giving herself five orgasms a day, that she was “kind of addicted” to her vibrator.

Can that really happen? A recent article in Cosmopolitan talks about prolonged use of a vibrator and what effect it might have on your sex life. Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin says, “Here’s the bottom line. You’re not going to get addicted to or dependent on your vibrator.” She goes on to say that there may be times you want to keep it in the dresser drawer, especially if you are heading into a new relationship.

“If you’re down with having your partner use a vibrator on you, or using a vibrator with your partner, by all means, buzz away!” she says, but cautions that using the vibrator might keep you from discussing with each other what else you might like. “It’s hard to give a partner feedback if all you know how to do is hit the power button,” she says.

At Pure Romance, we offer all styles and shapes of vibrators and other relationship enhancements for you and your partner, but nothing beats basic communication of what you both want. If it includes a Pure Romance toy, all the better! But it’s all part of a healthy discussion about sex that we all should be having. This is just one way to get the conversation going!

Want to read more from the Cosmo article? Check it out here!


Being Your Own Boss is Good for You!

We talk a lot about how proud we our of our Consultants who are taking charge of their lives and their families’ schedules and becoming their own small business owners. They are amazing women, but on top of that, they also are doing wonders for their own health and well-being!

A recent article in Forbes confirms what a lot of us have found out in owning our own business—it makes us feel good, and that in turn makes us better equipped to help the ones we love. In the article, economist Milena Nikolova says those who make the move voluntarily, from regular jobs to self-employment, enjoy improvements in both physical and mental health.

“The findings highlight an additional non-monetary benefit of self-employment,” she writes, “and have implications for entrepreneurship theory and practice, current and would-be entrepreneurs, as well as policy-makers.”

Self-employed people with and without employees saw health benefits, according to Nikolova, who noted that numerous other studies show the self-employed enjoy enhanced job satisfaction related to having control over their jobs.

We love the idea that Consultants are their own bosses, set their own flexible schedules and are helping their families through their Pure Romance businesses. And now we have proof that it’s good for you!

If you’ve ever thought about being a Pure Romance Consultant, now’s the time to consider it, and if you’re already a Consultant, make sure you join us for National Training in Cincinnati next month—register now before it’s too late here!

If you want to read more on the subject, check out the Forbes article!


The Myths of Menopause

There are as many stories about menopause as there are women who have gone through it. Some are lucky enough to sail through “the change,” while some have symptoms ranging from the occasional hot flash to full blown mood swings.

Menopause can mean a lot to women, but one thing it doesn’t have to mean—it doesn’t have to mean the end of your sex life. It’s true that after menopause the loss of estrogen and testosterone can lead to changes in a woman’s sexual drive and changes in her body, but there is help that can bring the spark back to your sex life.

That’s why I am excited about our next #SexualHealthMatters conversation, coming up Tuesday, July 9th at the Metropolitan Club in Covington, Kentucky, where we’ll talk about sex and menopause. We have a great panel of experts and physicians that will answer YOUR questions about hot flashes, vaginal dryness, pain, early menopause and much more.

If you’re in the Cincinnati area, we’d love to see you at our conversation. Tickets are free, and you can register here! Whether you have gone through “the change” or are near that time, you’ll find this conversation educational and informative. Join us on July 9th!

Is the Lack of Sex to Blame for Midlife Divorces?

If you’re like me, you have plenty of friends who have been married 20 or more years who all of a sudden announce they’re getting a divorce. If you think it’s happening more and more, you’re not imagining things.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau and the National Center for Health Statistics, among U.S. adults ages 50 and older, the divorce rate has roughly doubled since the 1990s.

In 2015, for every 1,000 married persons ages 50 and older, 10 divorced – up from five in 1990, according to the data. Among those ages 65 and older, the divorce rate has roughly tripled since 1990, reaching six people per 1,000 married persons in 2015.

So, what’s the reason? Shannon Perry, writing in Prime Women, says there’s one subject that comes up time and time again among respondents: Sex. Specifically, different expectations of how much and how often, different levels of desire, physical pain when having sex and similar issues that crop up among older adults can make being intimate more difficult.

Perry talked with sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman on how older couples can stay together while confronting different views about sex. Zimmerman says it’s not unusual for couples to split over issues of sex. “Sex is a common area of conflict and concern,” she says, “and it’s frequently cited as the main reason they are seeking therapy and a big part of why they may divorce.”

How can couples salvage their relationships? Zimmerman says the most important thing is to not give up. “Marriage is like a garden; it needs tending,” she says. “Continue to spend quality time together. Make sex and intimacy a priority.”

Another suggestion she has is to make sure couples celebrate what they have. “Recognize that you have something special,” she says. “Enjoy every moment. Don’t take it for granted because life brings changes, one way or another. Be grateful for what you have and express that to each other.”

Relationships are based on communication, and communicating your sexual needs is one way to open up the conversation. And if you’re looking for a little spark to your love like, don’t forget that Pure Romance is here to help!

Want to read more from the article? Check it out here!

Want to Add Years to Your Life? Add Sex to Your Life!

We all know the usual advice for a healthier, longer life: Watch what you eat, get enough sleep, exercise more, get regular checkups. All of that is well and good, but here’s one prescription we can all follow—have more sex!

According to an article in Psychology Today, English researchers surveyed nearly 1,000 men on their sexual activity, then surveyed them again a decade later. Compared with men who had had sex just once a month, those who had sex twice a week had half the death rate.

Other studies support the idea that more sex leads to longer life, including two studies involving men AND women in Sweden which showed the connection between living longer and having sex. So why does having sex help you live longer? The article outlines a number of reasons, including:

• Frequent sex means you have a good intimate relationship, which can prolong life.

• Sex is a great workout! Exercise is a main component of having a healthy lifestyle.

• Sex is relaxing.

• Frequent sex can strengthen your immune system.

So make sure you choose healthy foods, don’t smoke and reduce stress. And don’t forget to make time for sex. Doctor’s orders!

Want to read more from the study? Check it out here!