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Love Can Hurt … and for Many Women, So Can Sex.

Anyone who’s had a broken heart knows that love can hurt. But many women complain that sex can, as well. Many other women don’t say a thing even if it does hurt, because they don’t know what to say, may be embarrassed or don’t know whom to tell.

In an article in Sunday’s New York Times, Dr. Jen Gunter, an ob/gyn, writes that women often jump to the conclusion that if sex hurts, it must be their fault. Instead, it might be a medical condition known as dyspareunia, a fancy word describing pain during sex due to medical or psychological causes.

Although you may feel you’re the only person in the world for whom sex is painful, Dr. Gunter says that almost 75 percent of women have experienced it. Many have the pain come and go, but up to 45 percent of menopausal women and 60 percent of cancer survivors report pain.

It can be caused by muscle spasms, nerve pain, skin conditions, low estrogen or endometriosis. It can be triggered by a woman’s fear of pain—if sex is painful and you’re going to have sex, Dr. Gunter says, your body tenses up in anticipation and, you guessed it, sex is painful.

So what to do? One of the first steps, Dr. Gunter says, should be finding a good doctor. Too often, women tell a doctor about their pain but never get a diagnosis or treatment. “In addition to a doctor and physical therapist,” Dr. Gunter says, “a sex therapist and psychologist may be helpful.” It may take a few appointments, but finding the right doctor who will give you a proper diagnosis is a big step in solving the issue.

Our Consultants often have the chance to listen to women who complain about pain during sex. Guiding them to a health care professional who can help them live pain-free can help them feel better about themselves, their partner and about sex. And who doesn’t want to feel better about sex?

Want to read more of Dr. Gunter’s article? Here’s the link:

What Were You Doing at 25?

Take a look back and think about what you were doing when you were 25 years old. Maybe you were just getting out of college and starting a new job. Perhaps you had been married for a few years and starting your family. Or maybe it was a combination of the two.

Whether it was a long time ago or just yesterday, most of us had big plans, hopes and dreams at 25 years old. You feel as if the entire world is at your fingertips and you can accomplish anything.

Well, that’s the way we feel at Pure Romance today. Because this year, 2018, is our 25th doing businesses with our amazing Consultants across the globe. It’s a good time to reflect on what we’ve accomplished in 25 years, and to look ahead.

Just like many of you, 25 years ago I had dreams of providing for my family while being able to empower, educate, and entertain women. From those dreams Pure Romance was born and I was able to fulfil my dream of caring for my kids, setting my own hours and helping other women make their own dreams come true.

And now, here we are 25 years later and almost 30,000 women across the world are able to own and operate their own business, provide for their families and live life by design. That’s quite a lot to celebrate and we plan on celebrating quite a lot during this 25th anniversary year!

You’ll hear more details about our 25th anniversary plans as the year goes on and especially at our World Conference. For now, join us as we begin our 25th year of Pure Romance. Hey, we feel we’re just getting started! Be part of a celebration 25 years in the making!

Making a Better New Year

It’ seems almost unbelievable that we’re heading into 2018! It seems as if we just got used to writing ‘2017’ on letters and checks, and now we have to learn to add another year to our total.

As we get ready for another trip around the sun, many of us look at the new year as a new start to some of the things we want to do, we’d like to do or we wish we could do.

The New York Times recently had an article on how to make, and keep a resolution. First, make sure that you set a realistic goal. Sometimes, according to the article, we make a resolution based on what someone else wants us to be or do. Our goals should be SMART—and that’s an acronym for “Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-Bound.”

Other tips? Make sure you have a plan to change a behavior, break a habit or reach a goal. Charles Duhigg, author of “The Power of Habit” and a former New York Times writer, says in the article to create a plan, then reward yourself once you see that plan through.

Look, there’s no magical change that happens when the clock strikes midnight on December 31, but it’s a good benchmark for all of us to take a look at how we can make 2018 even better. Want to learn more about getting, setting and achieving goals? Read the article at

As we head through the rest of the holidays into the new year, my family and I want to wish you and yours the happiest of holiday seasons and the very best for the New Year. We’ll see you in 2018!

Make Time for #GivingTuesday

I hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday! My family and I enjoyed the long weekend and now we’re in the middle of the tinsel and trees and gift-giving! But while we’re all running around shopping, I’d like you to stop for just a moment on Tuesday to remember Giving Tuesday and what this season is all about.

Giving Tuesday, as you may know, was started in 2012 in New York by the 92nd Street Y and the United Nations Foundation as a way to balance out, if you will, the spending of Black Friday and Cyber Monday. It reminds us that, however hectic things may get in the next month, this is a time to give to others.

And so, I’d like to suggest that you think about the Patty Brisben Foundation on Giving Tuesday. We started the Foundation in 2006 to focus on women’s sexual health education. For years it was difficult for women to get answers to some of their most intimate questions about menopause, sex after cancer and pelvic pain. Our goal at the Foundation has always been to help doctors in their research and treatment for these women.

We are proud that over the last decade we’ve raised nearly $4 million for women’s sexual health causes and have provided grants for clinics in South Africa, researchers in Massachusetts and doctors in Oregon, just to name a few. But there is so much work left to be done. Women need access to good sexual health care, no matter where they live. We’re making progress, just like the researchers that we’ve funded, but we have work to do yet before every woman gets all the services she needs.

That’s why I’m asking you to help on Giving Tuesday. The Patty Brisben Foundation is the only Foundation that funds research solely focused on women’s sexual health. You can help women across the world live healthy lives, just by taking the time to donate during this season of giving. And thank you for supporting our mission to direct resources and fund research to advocate for women’s sexual health, and advance the understanding of the issues facing women’s sexuality.

Want to learn more about the Foundation? Visit

Sexual Health in the Age of Oversharing

We know how difficult it can be to try to explain some of your most private moments (and parts!) to anyone, from the doctor’s office to the bedroom. That’s why I found an article that ran in the New York Times this past week so interesting.

“My Vagina Is Terrific. Your Opinion About It Is Not” is the attention-grabbing headline of an article by Jen Gunter. She is an OB-GYN based in San Francisco and writes the article from the point of view of treating women for 25 years on sexual health. “I have listened to women with completely normal exams weep that they have been told that they do not smell or taste correctly. That they are too wet, or too loose, or too gross.

“These women all shared something: They were told these things by men,” she writes. She also references an earlier article of her own experiences, when a man she was dating told her she’d be more desirable if her hair were straighter, her clothes were different, etc. “The metric for my supposed perfection kept changing…which I now gather was the point,” she writes.

“So when this man began to tell me how my healthy vagina could be better, I dumped him,” she continues. “Telling women how they can be better is a classic way of tapping into body image issues and honestly in my personal opinion it is a form of abuse.”

In this day and age where we are having open discussions about sexual harassment and abuse, Dr. Gunter’s article reminds us that no one has the right to prey on our insecurities. That’s why our Consultants are trained in dealing with these intimate conversations, so you as a consumer can ask honest questions about sexual health without the shame of someone telling you it’s bad or wrong.

You can read the entire article here:And to all of you, we wish you a healthy and Happy Thanksgiving!