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A “Selfie” to Remember

How many of you are into taking “selfies,” whether they’re solo or with a group? It’s such a fun way to let your friends and family know that you’re having a great time while including your closest pals in your photograph.

Of course, there’s an art to taking your own picture. In fact, an article from Allure gives 12 tips on taking the perfect selfie. But there’s a new trend in selfies you may not have tried yet. It’s the V-selfie. And yes, it means what you think it means.

An article in Sunday’s New York Times outlines the latest trend, where women use their smart phones to take intimate photographs and send them to their partners. Some include their faces, some don’t. “The V-selfie, though very much here, is perhaps less insistent,” writes Laren Stover. “Shared on dating apps or in texts, it has been sent to create longing and a sense of intimacy: A missive of lust and promise to lovers, or would-be lovers, who are separated.”

Before you try the trend, remember the rules of any intimate photography: Make sure everyone involved is of legal age, and make sure you know your partner VERY well. “It’s not just an image. It shows an element of trust,” said one V-selfie recipient. On-line images never go away, so be careful where you send these photos.

If you and your partner want to spice up your love life, the V-selfie may help you do just that. Want to read more? Read the New York Times article here.

Sex After Cancer

We all know someone who has undergone cancer treatment—maybe you have yourself. The treatment itself can be invasive and draining. But once the treatment is done, and you’re feeling better, it’s only normal that you’d like to resume intimacy with your partner.

But cancer treatment can change our sex lives, according to an article on “You may not be in the mood as often,” the article states, “and physical side effects can leave you feeling self-conscious.”

The article points out that while some of the after-effects of cancer treatment can disappear fairly quickly, others can last for months or years. Vaginal dryness, for example, can make sex painful.

But there are other ways to bring back those intimate moments—the article suggests kissing or cuddling if you or your partner aren’t in the mood for sex. For vaginal dryness, Pure Romance offers a number of products to help make sex less painful.

This is also the time that it’s so important to have an open and honest relationship with your partner, according to the article. Talk about what makes you uncomfortable, what you are self-conscious about, and what feels better. Maybe you are more sensitive now in other parts of your body than before. Once the discussion starts, you and your partner can work together to get that spark back.

For those of you who have finished your treatments and you’re cancer-free, congratulations! We are so proud of you and we hope you continue to have many more happy, healthy years with your partner. And don’t forget, Pure Romance is here to help you navigate your way back to a fulfilling relationship with your partner.

Want to learn more about sex after cancer? Read the article here.

How Much Is Enough?

Ah yes, the age old question, how often should you and your partner have sex? A recent USA Today article looks at the issue and whether there is a magic number that’s right for all couples.

First, let’s look at how often: According to Mary Andres, associate professor of clinical education at the University of Southern California Rossier School of Education and licensed clinical psychologist, there is no ‘right’ number, even though we tend to compare ourselves with friends or co-workers who might brag about their sex lives.

The article quotes a 40-year study that surveyed more than 30,000 Americans that showed couples who have sex once a week are the happiest. But Andres says couples need to understand how often their partner desires sex. “Some people want to have sex every day, and they are,” she said. “Other people have other priorities, so sex isn’t on the top of their list, so they are having it less.”

One reason, she said, might be our addiction to our social channels. “A lot more people are connected to devices—if they are watching videos, TV in the bedroom, texting or updating Twitter feeds, it’s detrimental to their sex lives,” Andres said.

She suggests setting an appointment for sex, and then keep that appointment. Also, couples need to figure out what works for them to satisfy each other’s needs—and it doesn’t necessarily have to be intercourse.

Among the benefits of sex: It releases endorphins that make us feel good, and it clears the mind and can help you think clearly. And, of course, Pure Romance products can help you spice up your sex life to make it more interesting for you and your partner!

Want to learn more? Here’s the link to the article:

Let’s Talk Sexual Health

What a terrific evening we had last week with the Patty Brisben Foundation and our launch of #SexualHealthMatters: A Conversation with the Patty Brisben Foundation! It was an informative evening of frank talk on issues affecting women’s sexual health. If you weren’t able to attend this time, mark your calendars for our next Conversation coming up on Tuesday, September 25th.

We find that conversation is the best way to open our feelings to our partners about our own sexual needs, but sometimes that conversation is difficult to have. According to a Mayo Clinic article, women are not alike when it comes to sex—we have different likes and dislikes, and our partners need to know that.

But how to bring that up? It’s not easy, but it’s an important conversation to have. The article suggests five points to get the conversation started, including:

  • Admit your discomfort. If you’re a little uneasy starting the conversation, say so!
  • Start talking. Once the words come out, it’s usually easier to bring up sensitive subjects.
  • Set a time limit. The article says 15 minutes is good for a start.
  • Talk regularly. Once you get into the habit, it’ll be easier to start the conversations.
  • Use a book or movie to illustrate your sexual health issues.

After you set up guidelines, some of the issues you might want to discuss are the time you devote to your relationship, routine sex versus trying something new, and your emotional intimacy, not just physical. If there are any health or hormonal changes your partner needs to know about, this is a good time to discuss that, as well.

Our conversation last week on #SexualHealthMatters really illuminated the need for all of us to talk more about our sexual health and needs. These tips from the Mayo Clinic can help you open up that conversation at home as well. If you want to read more from the Mayo Clinic, here’s the link:

Save Your Skin

Ah, sunshine! The official start of summer is still a couple of weeks away but most of us already are well into summertime activities—the beach, the pool, anywhere we can soak up a few rays.

There is a meme going around social media that talks about the “old days” when we laid out in the sun with our baby oil and iodine concoction slathered all over and some lemon juice in our hair to get that sun-bleached look. Ah yes, I remember it well, but these days, we know better. Now, we know to protect our skin when we go outside.

The National Institutes of Health reminds us about the dangers of sun exposure, from premature wrinkling to the more serious forms of skin cancers. “Each year, more than 2 million people are treated for two types of skin cancer: Basal cell and squamous cell carcinoma,” the NIH reminds us. “These cancers are seen in both older and younger people, and they’re rarely life-threatening. Melanoma is a less common but more serious type of skin cancer that’s diagnosed in more than 68,000 Americans each year.”

In fact, did you realize that our skin is our body’s largest organ? It protects us, so the least we can do is protect it from the sun’s harmful rays even while we’re showing more of it off on these warm days! Put your sunscreen on early and often, wear a fabulous wide-brimmed hat and don’t forget your very-chic sunglasses to protect your eyes.

As for the rest of you, our Pure Romance Body Boost Firming Creamhelps smooth and tone your skin before and after a day at the beach while our Revive Skin Repair Cream keeps your skin healthy and moisturized, especially for the extremely dry areas.

And if you still want that sunny glow without the sun, remember our Coco Glow Tropical Sunless Tanner offers medium to dark coverage safely!

Want more tips on sun care? Here’s the article from the NIH: