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The Men of Pure Romance

imageI was so pleased to see the response we received from the Father’s Day Men of Romance blog series last week. It was probably one of the most fun blogs I’ve had the opportunity to do. We often hear the cliché that “behind every great (and successful) man, there’s a great woman.” I think in this case we see that the reverse is often true! In this business, I work directly with the Pure Romance Consultants and don’t often get to meet the husbands and fathers who support them. There’s often the assumption that it’s one person’s obligation to keep things going, but these couples are showing us that there’s teamwork on both sides to keep a marriage and family on track. Even better, they aren’t just talking about how to do it, they are showing their children and all of us by example.

The way that the responses were written, it’s easy for people to think that their lives are fairytales, but they know that everyone has bumps in the road in life and it’s all about how you deal with them. These couples have a plan in place and have one another’s backs – it was a true inspiration!

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Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

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I think it’s so important to show appreciation for the people who show us love and support in our life. In the hustle and bustle of operating a business and taking care of our family we often lose sight of declaring that appreciation, which is why I think it’s so wonderful we designate a day to do just that.

First and foremost, I want to pay tribute to my Father today. He passed away at a young age from a heart attack. My Dad was a real “man’s man” who drove a truck for Keebler for 20+ years. He did the best he could with what he knew, which I believe is a statement that remains true for all of us in the realm of parenting. My Dad was rough around the edges, probably drank a few too many beers on occasion, loved Elvis Presley and had a difficult time expressing affection. However, I never questioned my father’s love for me. I saw his love in the everyday little things, like when my first car broke down, he took me to the dealership and said, “You can pick any car in the lot, but you’ll be responsible for the monthly payment!” To an outsider looking in it wouldn’t seem like an expression of love, but to me, the love was in the lesson: I can have anything I want in life, I just have to work hard to pay for it. My Dad also made time to call me every week despite his busy travel schedule, and after I had the boys he carved out time to spend with them every other Friday. He would pick Nick and Chris up, make giant milkshakes and curl up in front of the television to watch The Dukes of Hazard. Despite losing my Dad unexpectedly, I cherish the opportunity I had to see him show affection through his love for Chris and Nick. The boys were so young when Dad passed, but I see a lot of my father in the men they are today

Dad collageThis Father’s Day is exceptionally special because I now have the opportunity to watch all three of my sons and my son-in-law in their role as a Father. I’m sure many of you have heard me talk about how different all of my kids are, and it is definitely shines through in their parenting. Regardless of their discipline techniques or paternal instincts, they all have their own way of loving their children and supporting their significant others and it is those qualities that will benefit their children in the long run. I believe fathers are the ones who set the standard for what their sons will be like as a man, and for their daughters, they create healthy patterns so they can find the right type of love in their life. As children, our parents give us our first experience of love – we often look for those qualities in our future mate. It makes me incredibly happy to see all four of my boys with their children – they are always 100% present, and when they aren’t with them I can see the love they have shine through their eyes when they talk about them or show me a picture. It is a surreal moment when you see the little boys you used to diaper and discipline turn into fathers. It’s a beautiful gift and today I want to wish all of them a Happy Father’s Day.

To all of the wonderful men of Pure Romance, you are true rock stars! Thank you for supporting your leading lady in her business and setting a perfect example of love and support for your children. Happy Father’s Day!

Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

Robert Johnson IV and Tiffaney Johnson have been together for nine years and married for five. Their family includes: Celeste (15), Nevaeh (14), Max – their “doggie” (9) and Sid – their Bearded Dragon (5). 
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

1. One of the biggest responsibilities I take on to help is acting as the family IT person. Keeping Tiffaney and the girls updated, safe and connected is an extremely important task. Not to mention keeping a lookout for what might be coming in the future that could really help her.

2. Everybody needs a Handyman, and I happen to be that for Tiff. Be it putting together office furniture (which I’m convinced replicates like bunnies), or building custom cases to carry her demo items to parties, there never seems to be a shortage of things to build with her.

3. Marketing, Marketing, Marketing. Another way I help is by doing what I can to get her name out. Wearing hats and shirts with her information on it never stops for me. To work, to golf tournaments, to the mall – I seem to always run into someone that has been looking for a Consultant and handing out a business card or her mobile app is easy.

What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

I got some really great advice a while back that I think really moves the bar in our marriage. That being “If you support her, keep her smiling, protect her, and always put her first – she will love you for a day past forever.” This is something I’ve put to the test with Tiffaney, and thus far it’s been more than true. Past that, the biggest secret would be to listen just to listen, not listening to solve a problem. Sometimes that’s all she really wants.

What do you like most about being a dad?

The thing I like most about being a dad is honestly how much they make me laugh and smile. My girls are forever teaching me new things as the world changes in their lives. From new sayings to new dances and styles, they keep me in touch with not only their youth, but also my own at times. The thing I really enjoy doing with my girls is exposing them to new and exciting things, or sitting together playing anything from Little Big Planet to Farkle and Monopoly.

What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

There are a number of things I really admire about my wife, but one thing really stands out: She’s been doing this for close to a decade, and I’ve seen her come home after $25 parties, and $2,000 parties. I’ve watched her mentally work past tough feelings when she went from Red to Pink, and saw her focus on every positive when faced with the easier decision to just give up. The thing I admire the very most is her strength. I’ve been saying for a while that I would move our family to an area that was more receptive to her business so her business could really explode, and her response has never wavered – “I’m going to put Dallas Fort Worth on the map, I’m going to make it work right here. Somehow.” To me she’s amazing to watch and her strength shows in every choice I see her make.

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FOR HER…

Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

I always call and/or text him to let him know that I have made it safely to my parties and when I am on my way home from a party.

In this day and age of the “Independent Woman” your husband always needs to feel needed. So I always try to remind my husband that he is needed, by giving him the opportunity to fix things around the house, build something for me, open jars, reach things out of high cabinets, open doors, and plan date nights. While many ladies may make a lot of the money to always pay the handy man or the yard guy, you have to remember to give your partner the chance to do it and show your appreciation.  Something as little as appreciating when he unloads the dishwasher or does the laundry doesn’t go unnoticed.

I also pull out some of the products we sale. In our industry, we have to remember while we are helping other ladies’ relationships that we have to remember to nurture our own with our own products. Pull out the Hot Heart & Aura, give him the men’s line to wear, grab a blindfold and flogger, or play the Date Night Game. That’s why they become so supportive – in the back of their minds, they know things are going to be a lot of fun in this business. I have a wonderful wish list of items of things I want, so he always knows what to buy.  Tell him the fancy items you want him to buy for you, even if you can go out and get it for yourself. If you are constantly doing for yourself, you never give your partner an opportunity to do it for you.

I get dolled up sometimes just because; it gives him something to fantasize about all day. We often get all dressed up for a party or day job, but then come home and change into the sweat pants and T-shirts. Every now and again, put on your best outfit just to go see a movie with your partner or for dinner. Pull out some nice heels, dress or skirt. We assume the five minutes they see us before we leave or come home that’s enough but it’s not, so it’s okay to be their eye candy.

We have fun. Have fun in your relationship. It can’t be all business all the time and what everyone else has to say about your relationship. My husband and I have a private Facebook group. Yes, it’s just the two of us on it. We drop selfies on it through out the day or a thought that made us think of the other person. No drama, no issues, nothing serious. But it’s a great way to brighten up someones day, since we’re already caught up in our cell phones, tablets, and social media. Make it useful for more than everyone else. Think of each other from time to time in the simplest form.

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

This Father’s Day, he will get to do what he loves the most…play golf and spend time with me. He loves golf, and I have grown to enjoy it over the years as long as he is the one playing. It’s a pleasure to see his excitement when I ride along in the golf cart. He is at peace on the golf cart – no worries just fun. With all of the rain that happened last month, he was unable to play at all. So a day on the golf course, followed by a steak dinner (one of his favorites) will be perfect. Plus he doesn’t know this yet, but it’s time to update the family photos, so I will be scheduling a family photo shoot as well for this summer before the girls go back to school.

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You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

You know, I could probably write a book on all of the different ways he has shown his support over the last eight years of my business, and he probably doesn’t even realize it. It’s difficult to sum it all into one story, but I will try.

When I first started, he would drive me to out-of-town parties and sit for 3-4 hours in the car, at a nearby Starbucks or in the parking lot, and wait for the last lady to leave so he could come re-load the car for the long drive back home. He built me custom gun cases to carry my demo novelties. He doesn’t fuss that my home office takes up an entire bedroom of our three-bedroom home. He shows up to every corporate event and family friendly team meeting where he is welcomed, and talks to other spouses and helps out when he can. He proudly wears Pure Romance logo gear around town and tells the world his wife runs her own business. I have watched him label products and catalogs for me through late hours, and he manages to keep all of my technology safe and secure as my CIO (as he has been titled). But I think the one memory that has really held my heart in this business was the one evening I called him after a $100 party. I was upset and distraught and ready to throw in the towel; I ranted and fussed on the car ride home and he said nothing. When I was finished he said, “Babygirl, look at it this way, you now have a $100 you didn’t have three hours ago, you had fun, and if you do it 15 more times you will have a $1500-month.” All I could do was laugh because he was was absolutely right.  At that moment, I realized he was never going to let me give up that easily, and he was going to continue to support and motivate me.

My thoughts: Wow! I LOVE the story Tiffaney shared about her husband changing her outlook on a $100 party. In this business, many can get down on themselves after the inevitable lows. As someone outside the Pure Romance business, he was able to show her a different perspective – telling her that 15 $100 parties would be a $1,500 month gave her a new positive point of view; this is a trait that is invaluable in a husband and father.

I also smiled reading about Robert sporting the Pure Romance gear wherever he goes. He’s her walking billboard. If Tiffaney had to pay him for all of the promotion he does for her business, it would equal a full-time marketing department! The way he touts her business shows her and everyone he comes in contact with how proud he is of her. Not to mention, he’s also her CIO (Company Information Officer) and builds office equipment – he could deduct himself in taxes! This is not a guy who sits on a hammock or La-Z-Boy recliner, remote and beer in hand. There’s nothing more applaudable than a man who asks his significant other what she needs and does it with a smile and as “his pleasure.”

One thing is for sure; their two daughters will see the way Robert honors Tiffaney, and learn first-hand how a woman deserves to be treated. It’s a great life lesson for their family. Sometimes we forget to take into consideration all the things our significant others do for us. Father’s Day is truly a day to thank the special men in our lives.

Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

Tony and Laurel Livingston have been together for over 11 years and were married in 2012. They have five children: Tristan (15), Moira (13), Hailey (10), Natalie (7) and Anthony (3). They live in Coon Rapids, MN.
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

  1. I do all of her data entry work to free up her time and load and unload the car before and after many of her parties.
  2. I make sure I am home with the kids when she has parties or events.
  3. I try to encourage her when things aren’t going great or she has a not-so-great party

could keep going, but we’ll stop there! 

What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

She is my best friend.  Having five kids and both having jobs can be stressful, but we still make time for each other and schedule date nights whenever possible, whether its just the two of us or as a family.

I’ve learned that she is always right! 😉  (She didnt make me say that!) We talk and listen to one another, although anyone that knows Laurel knows she usually does most of the talking! :)

What do you love most about being a Dad?  

What’s not to like!?!  We have five great kids ages 15 to three, and I love spending time with them – whether it’s just watching TV, being outside, playing around the house, going to dinner, going bowling, chaperoning school field trips or whatever each day may bring. I love watching them grow up and learn new things every day.  Their smiles alone are capable of turning a bad day into a good one! Quite honestly, I think my life would be pretty boring without them. I love being a dad!!

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What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

She is amazing!  Along with being a GREAT mom to five kids,  she runs a successful business, is on the Board of Directors, on the school PTO, volunteers for various activities at the school, AND is a Girl Scout Troop leader.  She is also an amazing wife and does an awesome job raising our kids.  She makes time for them after school to help with homework or take them places whenever they need to go.  She has a HUGE heart, and is always doing what she can to help others when they need it.

FOR HER…

Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

Make time for each other! Even though we both work full-time jobs and juggle five kids, we still make time for each other! We try to have that down-time each day, even if it is just watching a pre-recorded TV show, or just a half an hour where we can be together. We also talk multiple times throughout the day.  Make your husband your best friend! When something happens, he is the first person I want to call and tell! We really stay connected! And make time for sex! There are 24 hours in a day – that means there is plenty of time for intimacy with your partner EVERY day!  Make it a priority and make time for it!! No excuses! 😉

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

Spending the day doing whatever he wants! The kids and I will make him breakfast in bed and shower him with gifts! At night the whole family will go and watch him play double-header softball games! He loves to play softball!

You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

My husband, Tony, is my # 1 fan and supporter when it comes to my Pure Romance business! He has supported me since day one, when I had attended a party 5 1/2 years ago and said I think I want to do this! His exact words were, “It’s so perfect for you; I don’t see how you could NOT do it!” He listens to me talk about my business incessantly, and gives me advice. He stood by me when a year into the business I decided to quit my full-time time job and make PR my full time career! I bounce my ideas off of him for everything–parties, sales, team stuff, goals and meetings! He is the most supportive when I am struggling with the inevitable roadblocks in the business, like a low retail month, multiple party cancellations or hitting a rut in sponsoring. He is there to remind me that it is part of the business, and it will swing back around. He always says to me, “Commit to the process and detach from the outcome, isn’t that what you tell your team?” A few months ago, he even became my assistant and does my data entry for me now! My husband is my biggest cheerleader and my best friend! I am so lucky to have his support with my growing business! I told him one day he will have to retire so he can work for me! :)

My thoughts: Like many of the husbands and partners celebrated in this blog series, Tony is Laurel’s biggest fan. He helps her get through the inevitable slumps that any Consultant will experience. It’s encouraging to have someone in your ear reminding you that, “This too shall pass,” and that any obstacles will be short-lived. He’s someone who keeps her positive, and helps her detach from the tough times or when she’s in a rut. Even that he loads and unloads the car might sound like a small thing, but I can’t tell you what that meant for me when I was a Consultant. It allows you to just focus on doing a great party and giving the guests an experience they will always remember.

Marriages often fail because people ask, “What are you going to do for me?” They don’t work to give back to the other person and it’s great to see these two recognizing all that they do for one another. He admires her for who she is and what she has to juggle.

And speaking of juggling: five kids and they still make time for sex? That’s no easy task. There are some couples out there who make excuses about why they don’t have time to connect with their partner – Laurel and Tony know that it’s vital to connect on every level, no matter what they have to sacrifice. Many of their date nights even include the kids – this is a couple that knows that the family that plays together, truly stays together.

Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

Justin and Summer-Rain Bussard just celebrated their 8-Year Anniversary this past week on June 15. They have three children together: Zacorro (6 years old), Zoraelia (3 years old) and Zovany (5 months old). They live in Goose Creek, SC.
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

1. When I am home, I take the kids wherever they need to go so that SummerRain has the quiet office time that she needs.

2. I do anything and everything around the house that can be done, from laundry to dishes to getting the kids tucked into bed.

3. When needed, I will help her in the office with labeling products, inventory / stock, and managing her books so that she can spend the most time doing what she does best: sales and recruiting.

What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

Putting each other above all, being open-minded and patient, and supporting each other’s careers and the decisions she makes.

What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

There is a lot that I admire about her. First and foremost, the love and care she provides to the kids and me, as a wife and mother. Everything she does in life is to support us as much as she can for our family.  Second, her heart. No matter what the scenario, she is always helping others out. From family members, to friends and even complete strangers, she cannot say no, and helps them in whatever way she can. I also admire her determination and resilience. If there is a goal she wants to reach, its not a matter of “if” she will reach, it is a matter of how quickly she will get there. Earlier this year, our youngest son spent a lot of time in the hospital fighting for his life. At the same time, I was away at Officer Candidate School (officer boot camp) and had little contact to the outside world. We were both going through a lot, and were experiencing the most stress we ever have in our entire lives. Most people would turn inward and break down, not Summer-Rain. She found a way to stay positive and keep pushing forward. During the three weeks living in Walter Reed, she found a way to work, placing the necessary orders to stay active (and then some) as well as recruiting 16 new Consultants for Pure Romance. There is not a day that I do not wake up and am not inspired by everything she does personally as a wife and mother of three, and professionally as an Executive Director in the company.
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FOR HER…

Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

I think that we practice a lot of little secrets that contribute to our successful marriage. Justin still opens the doors for me, I support his athletic lifestyle, we take time to spend not only with the kids, but we make sure to always find some quality alone time as well. The biggest secret we practice in our marriage starts with communication in the bedroom. This may sound strange but, we believe that if you aren’t communicating when it comes to intimacy in your bedroom, then you aren’t communicating everyday in your marriage. We know that divorce is largely caused by money issues and lack of intimacy. Thanks to Pure Romance, we are constantly working on bettering both of those categories. Three years ago, I didn’t think we would even be together; I was contemplating separation. I joined this company to make money to be able to support my two kids and me. Well, lets just say we product-tested our way to baby #3, and now we’re the closest we’ve ever been.

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

As of right now, we don’t have much planned for Father’s Day. We will probably be super lazy and go out to breakfast and then dinner to celebrate. Quality time is always our favorite way to celebrate holidays in our house…that includes Netflix, usually. But we may go and see a new movie!

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You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

This guy. He does everything he can to help me in my business! From office work, shipping packages, taking the kids to do activities so I can have some quiet office time.

When I would go away to conferences, he would take leave from work and keep the kids for five days himself. Or, like this past National Training in Cincinnati, he actually requested leave to be able to help me with our baby boy at the hotel so that I could still nurse and pump for him in between my classes. Not to mention, he drove us both ways so that I could sleep and be rested for Training. He prepped my team gifts and set up the room for our Team Pure Survivors get-together in our suite. I’m just amazed by him. He has his own life, his own career, things happening, and he still takes care of me and our three babies.

My thoughts: I’ve always maintained that relationships are like a beating heartbeat. We are going to have highs and lows, and these two have worked through the bad times to fully appreciate the good. Marriages sometimes fail because one person grows, while the other stays stagnant. However, both Summer-Rain and Justin work to make sure that they are emotionally and mentally moving through changes together. In being honest about the challenges they faced, Summer-Rain is showing us that she practices what she preaches. Not only is she helping others to navigate their intimate relationships, she’s showing us that Pure Romance has changed her life for the better, as well. And believe me, there’s no better way to teach others than by example.

Justin’s time is extremely valuable (especially working in the military serving our country!). He works to sacrifice time for her because he values her, and what she does for a living. He is showing through his actions how important she and their family is to him. Helping her with her inventory and home office, as well as with the kids is taking the burden off of her. Even getting the kids tucked in at night allows her to do a party and not feel guilt about not being there. When I first started as a Consultant over thirty years ago, I juggled being a single mother of four. I can tell you from personal experience that three babies under the age of six years old is a LOT of work; this isn’t even counting running your own business on top of that. They are so lucky to have each other’s backs and show their children how far committed parents and loving actions can take a relationship.