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Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

Tony and Laurel Livingston have been together for over 11 years and were married in 2012. They have five children: Tristan (15), Moira (13), Hailey (10), Natalie (7) and Anthony (3). They live in Coon Rapids, MN.
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

  1. I do all of her data entry work to free up her time and load and unload the car before and after many of her parties.
  2. I make sure I am home with the kids when she has parties or events.
  3. I try to encourage her when things aren’t going great or she has a not-so-great party

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What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

She is my best friend.  Having five kids and both having jobs can be stressful, but we still make time for each other and schedule date nights whenever possible, whether its just the two of us or as a family.

I’ve learned that she is always right! 😉  (She didnt make me say that!) We talk and listen to one another, although anyone that knows Laurel knows she usually does most of the talking! :)

What do you love most about being a Dad?  

What’s not to like!?!  We have five great kids ages 15 to three, and I love spending time with them – whether it’s just watching TV, being outside, playing around the house, going to dinner, going bowling, chaperoning school field trips or whatever each day may bring. I love watching them grow up and learn new things every day.  Their smiles alone are capable of turning a bad day into a good one! Quite honestly, I think my life would be pretty boring without them. I love being a dad!!

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What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

She is amazing!  Along with being a GREAT mom to five kids,  she runs a successful business, is on the Board of Directors, on the school PTO, volunteers for various activities at the school, AND is a Girl Scout Troop leader.  She is also an amazing wife and does an awesome job raising our kids.  She makes time for them after school to help with homework or take them places whenever they need to go.  She has a HUGE heart, and is always doing what she can to help others when they need it.

FOR HER…

Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

Make time for each other! Even though we both work full-time jobs and juggle five kids, we still make time for each other! We try to have that down-time each day, even if it is just watching a pre-recorded TV show, or just a half an hour where we can be together. We also talk multiple times throughout the day.  Make your husband your best friend! When something happens, he is the first person I want to call and tell! We really stay connected! And make time for sex! There are 24 hours in a day – that means there is plenty of time for intimacy with your partner EVERY day!  Make it a priority and make time for it!! No excuses! 😉

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

Spending the day doing whatever he wants! The kids and I will make him breakfast in bed and shower him with gifts! At night the whole family will go and watch him play double-header softball games! He loves to play softball!

You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

My husband, Tony, is my # 1 fan and supporter when it comes to my Pure Romance business! He has supported me since day one, when I had attended a party 5 1/2 years ago and said I think I want to do this! His exact words were, “It’s so perfect for you; I don’t see how you could NOT do it!” He listens to me talk about my business incessantly, and gives me advice. He stood by me when a year into the business I decided to quit my full-time time job and make PR my full time career! I bounce my ideas off of him for everything–parties, sales, team stuff, goals and meetings! He is the most supportive when I am struggling with the inevitable roadblocks in the business, like a low retail month, multiple party cancellations or hitting a rut in sponsoring. He is there to remind me that it is part of the business, and it will swing back around. He always says to me, “Commit to the process and detach from the outcome, isn’t that what you tell your team?” A few months ago, he even became my assistant and does my data entry for me now! My husband is my biggest cheerleader and my best friend! I am so lucky to have his support with my growing business! I told him one day he will have to retire so he can work for me! :)

My thoughts: Like many of the husbands and partners celebrated in this blog series, Tony is Laurel’s biggest fan. He helps her get through the inevitable slumps that any Consultant will experience. It’s encouraging to have someone in your ear reminding you that, “This too shall pass,” and that any obstacles will be short-lived. He’s someone who keeps her positive, and helps her detach from the tough times or when she’s in a rut. Even that he loads and unloads the car might sound like a small thing, but I can’t tell you what that meant for me when I was a Consultant. It allows you to just focus on doing a great party and giving the guests an experience they will always remember.

Marriages often fail because people ask, “What are you going to do for me?” They don’t work to give back to the other person and it’s great to see these two recognizing all that they do for one another. He admires her for who she is and what she has to juggle.

And speaking of juggling: five kids and they still make time for sex? That’s no easy task. There are some couples out there who make excuses about why they don’t have time to connect with their partner – Laurel and Tony know that it’s vital to connect on every level, no matter what they have to sacrifice. Many of their date nights even include the kids – this is a couple that knows that the family that plays together, truly stays together.

Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

Justin and Summer-Rain Bussard just celebrated their 8-Year Anniversary this past week on June 15. They have three children together: Zacorro (6 years old), Zoraelia (3 years old) and Zovany (5 months old). They live in Goose Creek, SC.
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

1. When I am home, I take the kids wherever they need to go so that SummerRain has the quiet office time that she needs.

2. I do anything and everything around the house that can be done, from laundry to dishes to getting the kids tucked into bed.

3. When needed, I will help her in the office with labeling products, inventory / stock, and managing her books so that she can spend the most time doing what she does best: sales and recruiting.

What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

Putting each other above all, being open-minded and patient, and supporting each other’s careers and the decisions she makes.

What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

There is a lot that I admire about her. First and foremost, the love and care she provides to the kids and me, as a wife and mother. Everything she does in life is to support us as much as she can for our family.  Second, her heart. No matter what the scenario, she is always helping others out. From family members, to friends and even complete strangers, she cannot say no, and helps them in whatever way she can. I also admire her determination and resilience. If there is a goal she wants to reach, its not a matter of “if” she will reach, it is a matter of how quickly she will get there. Earlier this year, our youngest son spent a lot of time in the hospital fighting for his life. At the same time, I was away at Officer Candidate School (officer boot camp) and had little contact to the outside world. We were both going through a lot, and were experiencing the most stress we ever have in our entire lives. Most people would turn inward and break down, not Summer-Rain. She found a way to stay positive and keep pushing forward. During the three weeks living in Walter Reed, she found a way to work, placing the necessary orders to stay active (and then some) as well as recruiting 16 new Consultants for Pure Romance. There is not a day that I do not wake up and am not inspired by everything she does personally as a wife and mother of three, and professionally as an Executive Director in the company.
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FOR HER…

Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

I think that we practice a lot of little secrets that contribute to our successful marriage. Justin still opens the doors for me, I support his athletic lifestyle, we take time to spend not only with the kids, but we make sure to always find some quality alone time as well. The biggest secret we practice in our marriage starts with communication in the bedroom. This may sound strange but, we believe that if you aren’t communicating when it comes to intimacy in your bedroom, then you aren’t communicating everyday in your marriage. We know that divorce is largely caused by money issues and lack of intimacy. Thanks to Pure Romance, we are constantly working on bettering both of those categories. Three years ago, I didn’t think we would even be together; I was contemplating separation. I joined this company to make money to be able to support my two kids and me. Well, lets just say we product-tested our way to baby #3, and now we’re the closest we’ve ever been.

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

As of right now, we don’t have much planned for Father’s Day. We will probably be super lazy and go out to breakfast and then dinner to celebrate. Quality time is always our favorite way to celebrate holidays in our house…that includes Netflix, usually. But we may go and see a new movie!

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You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

This guy. He does everything he can to help me in my business! From office work, shipping packages, taking the kids to do activities so I can have some quiet office time.

When I would go away to conferences, he would take leave from work and keep the kids for five days himself. Or, like this past National Training in Cincinnati, he actually requested leave to be able to help me with our baby boy at the hotel so that I could still nurse and pump for him in between my classes. Not to mention, he drove us both ways so that I could sleep and be rested for Training. He prepped my team gifts and set up the room for our Team Pure Survivors get-together in our suite. I’m just amazed by him. He has his own life, his own career, things happening, and he still takes care of me and our three babies.

My thoughts: I’ve always maintained that relationships are like a beating heartbeat. We are going to have highs and lows, and these two have worked through the bad times to fully appreciate the good. Marriages sometimes fail because one person grows, while the other stays stagnant. However, both Summer-Rain and Justin work to make sure that they are emotionally and mentally moving through changes together. In being honest about the challenges they faced, Summer-Rain is showing us that she practices what she preaches. Not only is she helping others to navigate their intimate relationships, she’s showing us that Pure Romance has changed her life for the better, as well. And believe me, there’s no better way to teach others than by example.

Justin’s time is extremely valuable (especially working in the military serving our country!). He works to sacrifice time for her because he values her, and what she does for a living. He is showing through his actions how important she and their family is to him. Helping her with her inventory and home office, as well as with the kids is taking the burden off of her. Even getting the kids tucked in at night allows her to do a party and not feel guilt about not being there. When I first started as a Consultant over thirty years ago, I juggled being a single mother of four. I can tell you from personal experience that three babies under the age of six years old is a LOT of work; this isn’t even counting running your own business on top of that. They are so lucky to have each other’s backs and show their children how far committed parents and loving actions can take a relationship.

Father’s Day Blog Series: Men of Pure Romance

Shannon and Steve Hamaker celebrated their 10th anniversary last April. They have two children named Foy and Jett, ages 7 and 2. They live in Fort Collins, CO.
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

1. Before her parties, I load up the van with all of her product bins, so she is not in a rush to load all of her products and get out the door. I know how many times she has to load and unload so I try to lighten the load on her.

2. Shannon’s parties usually end around 9 or 10 PM and she stays up after she gets home to place orders, etc. Both of our young boys get up pretty early (6 AM). I like to get up with them and make breakfast so she can sleep a little longer before she starts her day.

3. I often try to help her ship packages, get order forms or guest materials ready for her party, and even design special party invites for her.

What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

Shannon and I have been married for 10 years and every year presents a new challenge. We have both learned that the only way to adapt and survive those challenges is effective communication. We try to sit down every Sunday and plan the week. We go on dates a couple of nights a month. I have found that just giving my wife some form of non-sexual physical contact can do wonders for both of us. Long hugs in the kitchen while we’re making dinner. Giving her a back or foot massage. Snuggling with her in our back yard hammock on a warm Spring day. You would be amazed how much more secure you’ll both feel.

What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

I admire so many things about Shannon. The one thing I really admire is her passion to make other people happy and successful. When Shannon first started doing Pure Romance, I honestly had no idea how much she was changing lives and how she would continue her journey for 10 amazing years! She is SO giving, caring and sympathetic to everyone around her. Every time I meet new girls on her team they always tell me how much they love Shannon and how amazing she is. I 100% agree with them! She is truly amazing and touches so many lives.

FOR HER…

Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

We both know that there is a mutual respect for each other and that is ALWAYS there despite any frustrations. There is nowhere to go but up, and we are going together! We keep one another in check by setting our goals together every year. We talk about what we want for our personal, business, and family goals each year. That way we can support each other and have a clear vision on what we both want for the family.

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We love to have a good time together, too! Steve keeps me laughing and is not afraid to be goofy and let loose. We love going on dates to themed parties, skiing, concerts, hikes and bike rides. Sometimes just a simple coffee date ends up in laughter, and is much needed to stay connected.

We also grow together through parenting classes, church small groups, and recently just started Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace classes. It is hard work to have a healthy marriage, but so worth it!

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

YES! The Ben Folds Concert at Red Rocks! We are so excited!!!

You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

Too many stories to tell! Aside from loading my car for every party and taking on bedtime routines with our boys?!  Well, one of the sweetest things Steve ever did was at World Conference 2014; right before the Awards Night, he gave me a necklace to congratulate me on making Board of Directors. It wasn’t the necklace that was the best part – it was what he said that made it even more special. Steve told me he was proud of me and he knew I had worked hard to get there. We had recently moved and it was a time of change for us so it meant that much more to me.

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I often will hear Steve telling others about what I do for a living, and he has such a respect for the mission of Pure Romance that I can hear it in his voice! He is great at marketing for me!

My thoughts: These two “get it.” If you’re reading this and you have a partner on the fence about you getting into this business, Steve would be a great person to talk to about it. He sees beyond the moneymaking side of Pure Romance, he realizes the value that Shannon brings to others by helping couples maintain their relationships, and educating them on healthy intimacy and sexual health. We all want to play an important role in this life, and being able to show your significant other that you’re not only successful, but you’re also changing lives is huge!

Steve celebrates the successes not only of Shannon, but all of the women on her team. When other women share their stories of empowerment, Steve is so proud of their achievement. His support of the entire team further underlines the depth of his caring for Shannon’s team and his unwavering support of her business.

While Steve and Shannon have individual goals, business goals, and goals for their family. Their strong family unit allows them to take on whatever obstacles come their way. Their keys to success are that Steve is an excellent example to his two sons for how a woman deserves to be treated; and Shannon has defined her boundaries and has shown by putting herself first she hasn’t distracted from her family and their needs.

Steve and Shannon clearly have what it takes to keep the love alive, which is the best gift they can give their children. It’s easy for some  men to get the wrong idea about what a woman needs when it comes to romance (after all, that’s why Pure Romance has been educating couples for over two decades!). Steve’s point that just a hug or affectionate touch here and there or the ability to make you partner laugh can keep that spark burning. And that’s not the only way they keep the passion alive. They share adrenaline-rush activities that add excitement to their partnership. Studies have shown that those who confront fears together, like skydiving or roller coasters, also strengthen their bond just by going through it together.

Something tells me these two will be hiking, biking and partying even when they have great grandchildren running around. And thank goodness for that. Life would be a lot more boring without people like this in it!

Father’s Day Blog Series: The Men of Pure Romance

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Albert and Christina met on a plane in 1993 and just celebrated 21 years of marriage in May. They have two children: their son, John, will be 20 in August and attends Auburn University; their daughter, Olivia, is 18 and will be attending Volunteer State this fall  They reside in Bell Buckle, TN.
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FOR HIM…

Describe three responsibilities you take on to help out with the kids and/or your wife’s Pure Romance business.

1. We live in a very rural area so it takes one full week for Christina to get her products delivered. I went ahead and looked into having her orders shipped in town to her parents’ house, which gets it to us within three days. I now get notifications on my phone from UPS when the orders are delivered and pick them them up.

2. I’m always hands-on the 2nd Sunday of the month. Since day one, her team meetings have been at our home. I can remember when she started and she would have her only recruit over for dinner! Now, three years later, we had to literally move furniture out of the living room to make room for 44 of her team members! Whether it’s grilling hotdogs, offering refreshments or just cheering on the girls during recognition time, I’m there! Her team is like our extended family and we want them to know that!

3. With Christina traveling to parties, meetings, trainings or conventions I always make sure my work schedule revolved around my responsibilities to the kids and our home. I go in a few hours earlier so I can be there to maintain a routine for our family.

What are your secrets to a successful marriage? 

Doing all the little things together is important. She’s my best friend so everything from grocery shopping, cooking or spending time outside gardening – we’re doing it side by side.

What is something you admire about your wife – please explain/describe?

I admire the fact that she went from being a housewife to a successful business woman in a blink of an eye. When she puts her mind to something, look out! And even though her business keeps her very busy, she always puts me and the kids first, and never makes us feel neglected. I don’t know how she does it, but she’s pretty good at juggling everything and keeping it all going!

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Marriage in this modern-day-society can be a difficult thing to manage, especially when you are a hard-working businesswoman. What are some secrets that you practice in your marriage to build into your relationship? Obviously he’s a keeper!

Communication is Key! We are both products of divorced families so over time we realized that if our intention is to stay married for life, we have to be really clear with our thoughts, feelings and choose our words wisely. When possible, we make every effort to eat our meals together, sitting around a set table – no television, no phones. Eye contact and conversation is vital to a healthy marriage. Should I be traveling during the week, we are sure to check in with each other several times a day. We also align our goals, whether personal or family, and we work together to meet them head on.

Do you have anything special planned to celebrate Father’s Day?

My son is coming in from college for the weekend and we’ll have my parents over.  I’ve set up an early Tee Time Sunday morning, and after a round of golf the guys will come home to a great feast that my daughter and I prepared! We’ll then just sit around and watch old home-movies: the perfect ending to a perfect day.

You have screamed your husband’s name and made it obvious that he has been a wonderful supporter of you, your family and your business. Can you give me a story about how he has supported you?

The first thing that comes to mind is accompanying me every year to the PBF Gala. We both work odd hours so we don’t get many weekends together and his vacation time is precious since his parents still live in upstate New York.  For him to realize how near  and dear Patty’s Foundation is to me speaks volumes! He now has a separate savings jar that he contributes to all year long so he can bid on the silent auction to show support to the cause! This year we are going in a day early just so I can give him a tour of the corporate office downtown! I love that he is “ALL IN” when it comes to Pure Romance!

My thoughts: I will never forget when I first met this amazing couple. Christina and her husband approached me at a Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health Gala and were brimming with excitement and passion for the Foundation. It was touching to see two people so genuinely dedicated to the cause.

Reading through these responses – I absolutely loved seeing the enthusiasm Albert has for Christina’s business. When he talked about grilling and offering refreshments to her team during their meetings – he is as excited as she is about her passion for her career, and is truly her biggest “cheerleader.” There are some men out there who would feel threatened if their significant other chose to work outside the home; yet, in this case he celebrates her drive and respects who she is as an individual!

These two have the right idea about cherishing the little things in life. Christina hit the nail on the head when she stressed that communication is the key to a successful relationship. Just by reading their responses you can tell they sat down and set the ground rules together at the start of their relationship. They knew going into it the level of respect and support they need from each other to make it work.  They have a strong marriage that has lasted over two decades! And a side note: the year they met is also when I started Pure Romance so I’d call that a lucky-in-love anniversary! :)

Summer Ready Spotlight: Body Boost and Revive

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Revive_0215Summer is just a few weeks away. Bikinis, flip-flops, sandals and sundresses…what’s the best way to get ready for the hot and sticky months and barely-there clothing? I asked a couple of our top Consultants to share why and how Pure Romance’s Body Boost and Revive can get you summer-ready. Don’t forget to share your favorite products in the comments section!

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Pure Romance Executive Director

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Why you love the product?

Both Body Boost and Revive are amazing high-quality products that are a perfect addition to anyone’s daily routine. I love products where you cannot only see a difference, but you can FEEL it too!

How do you sell it?

When I talk about it at my parties, I focus on the benefits of each product. I’m also a product of the product! Since I personally use Body Boost, I’m able to share my experience in a more relatable fashion. It’s also a great add-on to Save My Skin! Then I follow up in my online VIP group with before-and-after pictures of both products to show how amazing they really are!

Why do you think it’s a necessity for women to use?

Most women have some small problem areas that they’re not that fond of – rough heels, cellulite, etc. Body Boost and Revive can help fix those problem areas and give a renewed sense of confidence.

How do you help women understand this is also a great product for the men in their lives? 

Think women are the only ones a little self-conscious about problem areas? Add both of these to the list of products that men can steal from us! (Especially if you’re tired of getting scratched by rough heels and calluses in bed!)

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Pure Romance Executive Director

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I love to put the Revive on my hands, heels and elbows before bed. I then put on spa gloves and socks. I truly feel that it is helping to reverse the signs of aging on my hands, makes my them super soft and smooth, and helps heal my heels and dry spots on my skin. For Body Boost, I use it on the bum, the old “saddlebags,” and on my neck and I definitely see a difference! Below is the demo I use when sharing these two products with my party guests:

Ladies, next up are two of my favorite best-selling products: Revive and Body Boost! Here, in New England, we get to appreciate all four seasons, but our bodies don’t always enjoy the extreme weather changes. You know what they say in our region, “It’s New England, blink, and the weather changes!” One day it’s snowing, and the next day it’s beach body time. These two products help address some seasonal skin problems that plague many of us!

First up, Ladies, is Revive! In the fall and winter, we experience dry and cracked hands in the cold New England States. Revive is amazing because it acts as a protective mask on your hands to prevent cracking and bleeding. It is awesome in the spring and summer months to get rid of those dry spots from hiding underneath all of those warm clothes all winter long. Also, if you ride horses or do a lot of gardening, this is a fantastic product to help heal and protect your hands from “rein rub,” or Gardener hands. It’s even a fabulous product for those of you who don’t have dry or cracked hands. I love to put it on before bed and put on a pair of spa gloves. When I wake up in the morning, my hands feel softer and look younger! Let’s get real, Ladies, there is nothing sexy about dried, cracked or aging hands when you’re going to give your partner a massage. It’s an instant turn-off! Just rub this sumptuous balm on any problem areas.

Next up is Body Boost! For the spring and summer months, we’ve been hiding underneath all of those warm clothes and we have forgotten to take care of our bodies. Body Boost is a body lift in a tube! Better than plastic surgery with none of the scary knives or needles. It is going to help you look super sexy for shorts season and bathing suit season. You will use it on any area that you feel needs tightening from saddlebags to the Bust. Girls, we don’t want that area looking like a National Geographic special – rub it all over you neck and chest. You can also use it on your legs, booty and tummy. It is important that you follow the instructions when using this product for maximum effect. 

Ladies, I’m going to pass these around now so go ahead and write these down on your wish list. They are a must have all year-round. Plus, once you purchase them, you will become a member of my VIP skincare club, and you can get them at a discount when you need refills!

A note from Patty’s Desk: Both of these top Consultants make some wonderful points about Body Boost and Revive. One thing that’s important to mention is that these are great products that are not only useful in the summer, but are also good to use all year long. I always stress how important it is to maintain our relationships, and this idea of “maintaining” also applies to our bodies and skin care. You wouldn’t wait until the wheels were falling off your car before taking it in for a tune-up, right? Thinking carefully about what we put on our body can help you look good, but even more importantly, it’s about making choices that will keep your skin and body healthy!